Dear Jasmine : I’m Depressed


Dear Jasmine,
You had mentioned that you were depressed when you started photography and I want to know how did you deal with that… how do you book clients, shoot people when you just don’t feel like doing it. I mean, I want to and I need this job but I just can’t ….
I feel like when I started photography I was so excited and omg… I booked so many weddings without advertising and somehow this year I lost everything. I don’t even like myself … and I just don’t want to tell anyone. People think I’m strong and I am, in a way… because I don’t show any feeling and I never complain about anything. I guess I just don’t want my family and friends to be worried.
Anyway, don’t want to bother you with my life just want to see how you did it… how did you make it this far when at some point in your life, you were depressed.
I Can’t

Dear I Can’t,
It’s taken me a while to respond because, well, this is a really personal part of my life. A part I don’t like to show, a crevice I’d like to cover with grout in the form of ambition, success, and drive. But if I were to peel back those layers–much like a stinking onion–you’d see a person who still battles with sadness, sometimes with a sword that feels impossibly dull.

When I started my business, I was reeling from a bout with depression because my mother had stopped her chemotherapy (doctors gave up hope and told my family to make funeral arrangements), I left law school, and I was completely lost in life. These circumstances would leave anyone depressed, but I was left feeling raw, almost like every fiber of my body was chapped and if you were to touch me, I’d collapse. Thankfully, I was able to walk away from that dark period in my life (with the help of many amazing people) and–looking back–many wonderful things transpired during this painful time, namely my photography business.

This battle, however, left me weak. Very weak, if I was being honest. I find myself inordinately sensitive to downward swings in personal and professional aspects of my life. I ache from old wounds and I crumble under the weight of my dreams and expectations. This lethal cocktail leaves me desperate some days…days when getting out of bed is my biggest triumph.

But here’s what I hold to be true: I am blessed.

My mother is {amazingly} alive.
   I have food in my fridge.
      I love the loofa in my shower.
         My husband loves me (a fact I’m still baffled by daily).
      I lay on clean sheets.
         My dog thinks I’m awesome.
   I have perfect friends.
I’m alive.

My business has opened doors for me, but the harder I fight to stay in control of it, the more frustrated I become, and this usually leads to sadness. And sadness leads to a dark depression. That point? The teetering precipice between sadness and depression? That’s where I draw the line and beg God to reel me back in. Because I’ve been on the dark side…and it left me raw.

So where does this leave you, I Can’t? Firstly, you are strong. Don’t ever doubt that. Emailing me and admitting your fears took obscene strength, so I have no doubt you can work through your depression. Your depression could be linked to the sudden swing in your business, or a myriad of other factors in your life. What I strongly suggest you do is find a wonderful person you can talk to. Speaking with a therapist (or a pastor, priest, wise friend, etc) will help put things in perspective and you can begin to work on ways to bring yourself back into the light. Don’t let the darkness hide your pain…it steals the things you love the most…things for which you should be most thankful.

Stay Fabulous,

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  1. Nikki

    November 2nd, 2012 at 3:51 pm

    thank you I Can’t, and thank you J*

  2. Mark Martinez Photography

    November 2nd, 2012 at 4:20 pm

    Beautifully said Jasmine. Perspective is everything.

  3. Melissa Kate

    November 2nd, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    These posts make me feel so much better. <3

  4. ashley barnett

    November 2nd, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    Beautiful post Jasmine- I think we’ve all experienced those dark times where it feels like the weight of our lives is resting squarely on our chest. There are always better days ahead. Thanks for the reminder.

  5. Tami Paige

    November 2nd, 2012 at 4:39 pm

    Thanks to both "I Can’t" and you, Jasmine, for being so open. I appreciated it so much.

  6. Kate O'Brien

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    Self doubt and that inner voice telling you you’re not worth it is the biggest obstacle to everyone, especially me. I’ve wanted to quit so many times but somehow manage to keep going forward to not let myself down. If I quit, I’d be quitting the part of me that loves to create and brings out the best in me. I refuse to do that. Best of luck to I can’t!

  7. Kelsey

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    Beautifully written and beautiful response Jasmine! I am so glad that a role model of mine forwarded me towards your blog a few years back. You are a constant inspiration – a person who has experienced failures and sadness but it filled with so much hope and triumph! And the fact that you are so open with the world, with your followers, and allow people to be open so you can help heal those wounds… amazing. You are so loved.

  8. Carrie K

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Well said! Thank you for your openness and vulnerability.

  9. B

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:27 pm

    I love that you think I’m perfect. Finally you can admit it! 😉

  10. Tanja

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:32 pm

    Thank you so much!
    It helps really much to read, that I am not alone!

  11. Jackie

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    Such great perspective to those who struggle. Thanks for being vulnerable! I am sure at one time or another we all face sadness and depression.

  12. Will Herrington

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:40 pm

    Thanks Jasmine, and I can’t… So many times I have wanted to post this exact email… I appreciate you showing the other side and being vulnerable. It really helps.

  13. em

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    A perspective of gratitude changes everything. I make lists and go back to them all the time to remember.

  14. Catara

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    Thank you J! I need to read this today. Especially from someone like you…who I look up to!


  15. dan!

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:43 pm

    Thanks for posting this and thanks for your honesty, Jasmine. I’ve been to dark places too. Therapy and a few good people have saved my life repeatedly. But it has cost a lot.

    To your reader: you’re not alone. There is always hope, even when you can’t see it.

  16. Daniel Cruz

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:44 pm

    This spoke in volumes to me. Thanks for posting Jasmine, and I’ll do my best to always think of how blessed I am!

  17. Dawn R

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    You truly are an amazing human being. That is all.

  18. Abbie

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    Your honesty and wisdom amaze me!

  19. Sandra Fazzino

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:51 pm

    B.e.a.u.t.i.f.u.l.l.y. honest from two courageous people. Sharing and listening, being of service to one another. Golden. Just that alone takes the edge off the darkness. Thank you both for making me feel less alone today. xo

  20. Andie

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:51 pm

    Wow… First, I have to say Kudos to I Can’t for admitting, realizing, and wanting to find a solution and balance to get better. Like I Can’t, I have been suffering (diagnosed) with severe depression for several years, and I just opened my business. Photography, makes me happy. It makes me smile, it makes me whole, it makes me crave to know more, to become the photographer I want to be. But, there are moments, where I wonder "What the heck did I open a business for???" because I doubt myself and my abilities so much, it overwhelms me.

    Second, Jasmine… While reading Exposed, all I kept thinking was "My Gosh, I wish I was more like her!" All bubbly, smiling, and full of energy, drive, ambition, courage etc. I admit, I did not know much about you (other than your beautiful photos) before I read your book/magazine. I have come to realize what an amazing person you are, and just like me and I Can’t, someone who has had to deal with bouts depression in her life. Yet, here you are still moving forward, growing, smiling, and sharing with everyone your beautiful world… You truly are one of my heroes… You’re beautiful inside and out! Thank you…


  21. Moi

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:55 pm

    What good advice J, thank you for showing your soft underbelly, it helps keep it real for the rest of us. You are fabulous xxxx

  22. Anne Kelley

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:55 pm

    It was my own dealings with depression that pushed my to begin my own photography business. It was the one thing I truly enjoyed. I was in such a dark place feeling lost and like a failure. It pushed me to strive to acheive something and to deal with people. I don’t remember a time that I have been happier! It is so important to find something that you can get lost in and still love it. If you are losing grasp on your photography…find something else that brings you joy and that may bring you back around to truly enjoying your business again.

    Depression is such a dark dark place but don’t give up hope…there is light at the end of the tunnel! Jasmine…what you write is so true!

    I Can’t…HANG IN THERE!!!

  23. Michael P. Young

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:55 pm

    My dearest I Can’t,
    Please, please, please, right now, right here, KNOW that by the mere fact of you putting yourself out here and WANTING to know how to beat this means you are going to be just FINE! Like Jasmine, I have battled with insecurity, fear of losing the battle of being creative, and finding my self depressed much more than I care to admit since I can remember back to my first breath of air….

    And for some strange reason, I believe your depression and fear, and insecurity will actually drive you to be very successful, if you learn to harness it…for some deranged "life is strange that way" coincidence, you will notice that those of us who struggle the most with these demons are the ones that bless others the most with the gift of their talent and creativity…and those that learn to harness that black energy, well….become beacons of white light to those they serve in their creative pursuits….

    Three things have helped me tremendously in harnessing the black energy(and maybe black energy is not the right words….)…

    1. I meet with a therapist just to talk….not to solve a damn thing perse, but just to talk to someone who won’t be worried in my telling them, or who I won’t feel like I have burdened.

    2. Read the book "The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield…trust me on this one…start reading it and dovetail it with the Therapy sessions…therapy is not a sign of weakness….it’s an absolute sign that you are strong and want to be stronger…

    3. Went down the rabbit hole of doing the self-paced Find Your WHY course from Simon Sinek…again dovetailed that with the therapy sessions and WOW to what was discovered…it’s only 79 bucks, but it takes a ton of commitment and several weeks if you do it right.

    Keep your chin up, and realize too that the great photographers of our time right NOW deal with the same depression, insecurity, and fear…Jasimine, Joe McNally, Jeremy Cowart….yes..them too!

    I have great hopes for your success as you have every ingredient that I can see in being a shining star in this ever lasting triad of challenge-failure-success thing called photography and being a creative…


  24. S.

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:55 pm

    Jasmine, I want to seriously thank you for being brave enough to post this. I’ve been battling clinical depression now for almost 7 years and being that I’m only in my early 20’s I sometimes feel lost or that it can’t get better. My love of photography has given me a reason to exsist but yet at times when the darkness over takes me I feel not even my camera can save me.
    Thanks once again for nothing hiding your struggles and showing us that no matter how great or successful you are, you are first and foremost you are still human and struggle like the rest of us.

  25. Chris Cummins

    November 2nd, 2012 at 5:58 pm

    What helped me immensely was reading a variety of books and working very hard on the internal habits of my life. A specific book called "Man’s Search For Meaning" by Victor Frankl had tremendous power to shape my understanding of the trials and difficulties of doing something worthy.

    The key here is not to just sit there… do something. Action influences change much more powerfully than thought and emotion can ever influence change in your life. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, do some personal photography project for yourself or for a worthy charity. Hell, take a rigorous walk with your dogs on that trail you have always wanted to. Do something for your spouse or significant other theydidn’t ask for. Do something nice for a complete stranger. The hardest part of doing it is just getting up and doing it. Once you have done that, everything is easier.

  26. Jennifer Medeiros

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:01 pm


  27. Dani

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    J* you have stopped me in my tracks with your beautfully articulated (a g a i n) response, and with trusting all of us out here – sharing with your personal experiences. I believe we all have so much in common at various times in our lives but do not often enough share, allow ourselves to be exposed. "I Can’t" is one person (thank you too for reaching out and sharing), true, but any one of us – again, just my belief – could be "I Can’t". …on a personal not, I can certainly relate and you have both given me perspective, of which I appreciate. =)

  28. Teresa LaVallee

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:05 pm

    Jasmine you have such a kind heart….it is refreshing to know that people like you do exist. Stay as you are…as always fabulous! 🙂

  29. natalie

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    amazing. beautiful. ‘don’t curse the darkness…light a candle.’ thank you jasmine

  30. Lisa Besancon

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:08 pm

    Amazing article. You are so very strong and I really needed this article today! Thank you, Jasmine! <3

  31. Jessica Vidmar Photography

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:09 pm

    J*, you truly are fabulous. Thank you for helping me and so many others everyday with your posts. There are those who say that people like you are the lucky ones or the minority and things just don’t come as easy for the rest of us but after getting to know you more and more through your personal posts, I say, if Jasmine can do it then all of us can!

  32. Meghan

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:18 pm

    Jasmine and I can’t:

    Thank you both so much for sharing your stories, I too have battled with depression for the last four years. I am not a professional photographer, just an aspiring one still working a 9-5 and going to school for my BA, but I know where you both are coming from…and I appreciate you both having the strength to talk about your depression. For me the darkest part of my depression was terrifying, and came about without warning…I was attending UW, commuting four hours a day to a school I didn’t belong in in a city I didn’t like and trying to work 30+ hours a week it got to the point where I was just trying to survive…I finally broke down and felt like I couldn’t put myself back together. 4 years later I still battle with depression but I can tell you what helped me, in hopes that it might help you. First of all YOU ARE NOT ALONE, for me one of the worst parts of depression was feeling isolated and alone because no one really understood what I was going through, I also felt so, so frusturated, because I didnt understand what it was I was going through and why I couldn’t snap out of it, so I did research online and read blogs and wrote in a journal, all ways of attempting to understand what it was I was going through, secondly, like Jasmine said, I found a wonderful counselor that I talked to…just being able to talk about the way I was feeling with someone who might understand even just a little bit was helpful…and lastly, as silly as it sounds I leaned on my dog…He was just a puppy at the time, but he went everywhere with me, and sometimes when I didnt want to get out of bed or go outside I made myself do it because he needed to be fed, and he needed to go out potty. There were a couple times when I tried to kill myself, but stopped at the last minute thinking of him, once I was in my car and turned it towards a tree, wanting so badly to crash into it and just stop everything because I was so frusturated and sad and TIRED, but he was in the car with me and I couldn’t stand the thought of hurting him or letting him out of the car where he would be lost and scared…it might sound silly to some people but I owe survivng depression to him, from getting me out of bed to letting me snuggle with him when I was so sad, to licking the tears off my face when no one else could be there to help me he was…so I can’t, I don’t know if you have a dog or another pet that may help you through this, but for me, he was the one who got me through the worst time in my life…and there are others out there that know exactly what you are feeling and are here for you. <3

  33. Scott westerman

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:23 pm

    I fully understand how the poster feels, I’m in the same place. I so have the syndrome Jasmine talks about in her book about everyone else having everything I don’t have.
    I’m sure I will get through it but when you’re trying hard to learn everything from camera craft to posing to business and you seem to be going backwards it’s easy to be hard on yourself.
    Note to self must be more positive.
    Thanks Jasmine

  34. Rachel

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    Jasmine, thank you for handling this topic so gently. Depression is complex and through currently studying to get my masters in MFT, I am beginning to realize how events in life (those that we have control over and those that are outside of our control) can affect us on every level of our being. It is true strength to reach out for help, because only through facing our fears and pain can we truly start to heal. I just wanted to thank you for being willing to be so real and honest about your own journey, because that shows incredible strength as well. Hiding and appearing perfect is not strength, it is a mask that keeps us from being fully alive and open to deep connections with others. I just want to encourage you and others to keep dreaming big, aiming high, but never forgetting to keep your vision clear so that you can see the little things (a great ice cream cone, watching a beautiful sunrise/sunset, hearing a child’s laughter, a big bear hug, a great movie, a soft bed, amazing friends, etc.) because these things are what keep us grounded and make our dreams rich once achieved.

  35. Meredith Sledge

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:31 pm

    Ohhh J*, I wish I knew you better. You have such a beautiful heart.

  36. Shannon K.

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    I just love you, Jasmine.

  37. P

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:41 pm

    I so needed to see this post today…I don’t think that anyone in photography is immune to this so thank you "I Can’t" for asking the hard question and thank you J* for having the courage to share your own story. I am ever so grateful for this post today.

  38. Joe Homsy

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:47 pm

    Dear Depressed…
    I’ve been in the wedding photo business for years and I still worry. You’re not along, my friend…often I wake up in the middle of the night and wonder how I’m going to make the mortgage payment. The I get up and realize that I have many things to me thankful for. Use your energy to take the slow months and work on marketing, learning. Talk to only your friends that are positive thinkers (I find that there aren’t that my of them).
    You may think that everyone is doing great and you’re the only one that is down; not true. Many of my photo friends are depressed over lack of business. Work smarter, keep happy, keep learning and growing and there won’t be much room left for depression. You’ll do great…I know! Joe

  39. colleenIS

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:49 pm

    what an awesome response to someone clearly reaching out for help. Thank you Jasmine for not ignoring the letter, for reaching into your own heart for what had to be a difficult letter to respond to, for caring about a fellow human being. To the author of the letter….please reach out for help, you are NOT alone, you are in a dark period but there IS light around the next bend…you might just need some assistance in reading the map to get there. Life is worth living to its fullest….you this in your heart… God bless you!

  40. Andreea H.

    November 2nd, 2012 at 6:56 pm

    As a FT clinical counselor and PT photographer, I very much appreciated this post. Chronic and Situational depression are two different beasts, both which may require different short-term and long-term interventions. If this is a reoccurring symptom, addressing with a therapist may be the best way. But there are also those speed bumps which knock us all down and we lose confidence in ourselves. What works for me is reading non-fiction books about how people have accomplished great things. I also read endless books on success, goal setting, habits, etc, and I seem to find those motivating when I’m not motivated. My favorite recent book is about how the Brooklyn Bridge was built, written by David McCullough – the story of how this was achieved makes me feel like I, too, with enough hard, work can achieve much. Hang in there, you’re by no means alone.

  41. Spiralling

    November 2nd, 2012 at 7:31 pm

    I too am currently spiralling into depression. I am writing this entry as a way of opening up. Maybe it’ll help, or perhaps I’ll just make a fool of myself but got nobody else to talk to and I need support.

    My wife of 17 years and mother of two beautiful girls has told me that she is in love with someone else. My whole system of belief had been yanked from underneath and can’t seem to grasp this reality.

    I’ve done everything by the book to be the best husband and family man all this time and yet, my wife, my best friend and soulmate tells me that it wasn’t anything I didn’t do but that it just happened.

    God help me. I am in so much pain!

    Dear I Can’t, I hope you can hang in there. Let’s try it a day at a time.

  42. Monica Smith

    November 2nd, 2012 at 7:45 pm

    To Jasmine, I Can’t and Meghan (a responder);
    Thank you for taking the courage to share your journeys through dark depression. Having been there, I know what the gift of friendship (especially from others who have been there) and the love of a pet can do for getting through and healing.
    Meghan, I had a kitten who got me through and I held on because if I didn’t who would feed her the next day. At my darkest points, she would come out of no where and sit in my lap with her paw on my heart. I had to hold on.
    I Can’t, the oppression can suck the breath out of you, but I promise you that God is with you in the darkness. This is not a surprise to Him. He will bring you out in due time. Know that it is okay to not want to do something. If the motivation is not there, perhaps this is God’s way of saying "I need you to rest now as you are about to become something greater. In order for you to be it, you need to build courage, faith and strength in Me. No matter what, I am with you and will care for you."
    I Can’t, please hold on. I promise you, there will be light and joy coming soon.
    Be blessed,

  43. Alicia

    November 2nd, 2012 at 7:55 pm

    Wow.. all I can say is wow. I can’t believe how choked up I got reading your reply Jasmine. It was perfect – and beautiful.

  44. Tanya Petraglia

    November 2nd, 2012 at 7:57 pm

    Thank you for this post, on both your parts. I have suffered as well, and it is a dark and raw ppace to be. My fathers life was taken from him in violence. He was a victom of spousal abuse, he new wife took his life. Through this tramatic expirence, I found my love for photography again when I found Jasmins website. I still do not have one paying customer! lol but I will be getting one this month! my first one:) I am stronger and more confident, and I now run. Each day I run I know my dad is right beside me. he tells me to never give up. My husband loves me too.. and is my pillar of streanth. When I am feeling bad for myself.. He gets me goign again, or I grab that book, or listen to that tony robins CD! LOL. Hang in there, it is so worth it. xox

  45. Rebecca

    November 2nd, 2012 at 8:06 pm

    I didn’t even know I needed to read this today. Thank you.

  46. Michelle Holland

    November 2nd, 2012 at 9:47 pm

    you will never know how many lives this will touch. This was something I really needed to read today. A very personal part of your life that way to many of us have felt.

  47. Joy

    November 2nd, 2012 at 9:49 pm

    I read the blog and all the comments – Jasmine, it really is amazing that you have opened the door for lots of people to share their experiences and help others by doing so. Thank you.

  48. Elaine

    November 2nd, 2012 at 9:49 pm

    Really nicely put Jasmine. There is a reason you are where you are in this business.

  49. Gail

    November 2nd, 2012 at 11:09 pm

    Oh Jas, what wonderful guidance you give this photographer. Powerful stuff….

  50. Feather Midgley

    November 2nd, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    I think most of us have gone through this in one way or another at some point…to the dearest "I can’t" …Jasmine’s advice is good and sound, I can say from my own experiences….and if you ever find yourself in a moment without someone to speak to…one thing that helps me the most on a daily basis is to make a list of everything I can be grateful for in my life (just like Jasmine did here). Do it daily when you first wake up, and just before each shoot if you have to. You do it enough and you’ll be "making it, not faking it" 😉

  51. Karina Bravo

    November 2nd, 2012 at 11:41 pm

    Thanks to Jasmine and I can’t for sharing your story and speaking for all of us who pursue a dream whether it be photography related or "life"- based and stumble along the way. We all need to sometimes re-ignite and re-find our passion, whether it be in photography or in our lives and faith. I know I am taking tiny, tiny baby steps towards that light. Sometimes its all we can do! Thanks again! So inspirational!

  52. Kathy Carlisle

    November 3rd, 2012 at 12:15 am

    Vulnerability is smexy (smart-sexy)! Beautifully said and eloquently conveyed! You can’t see the stars without darkness:) K

  53. Alexis

    November 3rd, 2012 at 3:10 am

    You are beautiful Jasmine, dare I say inside and out because what you wrote came from inside the depths of your heart and it was beautiful!

    I am praying for you and your family, your business and the work God has for you to do!

    I am also praying for the person you wrote this post to and the ones who may be experiencing similar setbacks. And it may help them to know the quote by motivational speaker Willy Jolley "A SETBACK is a SETUP for a COMEBACK!"

    God bless you!

  54. André

    November 3rd, 2012 at 3:15 am

    Hi Jasmine, have read that post a few hours ago and it is still on my mind. What made it stick for me was in part, that I could relate to a couple of things in your answer, depression, obviously for different reasons for me, the weight of dreams and expectations and the positive things in your life. One always should try to remember in their own. The way you wrote it, warm sensitive inspiring. The Music I was listening to when reading your answer to I Can’t, "KPM Music – Search for Freedom" (how apt somehow) on youtube, to me, one of the finest most inspiring, uplifting, positive, piece of music ever written. The, by chance, combination of the above was quite moving for me. I do hope and wish for I Can’t that she gets her Mojo back and someone will help her putting things into perspective with her. A bit like photography itself, put it, or have someone helping you, in the right Light and things can change dramatically. For yourself, to stay on top of your own game every day with something positive to take out at the end of that day.
    "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now!"

  55. Pinky

    November 3rd, 2012 at 9:27 am

    thank you for this! wonderful response.

  56. DA

    November 3rd, 2012 at 3:46 pm

    Dear Jasmine,
    Thank you and this means a lot

  57. Ashley Christine

    November 3rd, 2012 at 5:45 pm

    Thank you for sharing this, Jasmine! Such a good reminder for me to dwell on & be thankful for the blessings especially when I’m struggling.

  58. cassandra-m

    November 3rd, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    Today I felt like God was sending me to your blog for inspiration, and now I know he was~! Funny how I never saw you as anything but Strong & Successful & Awesome. Thanks for sharing such a personal post…it really touched my heart and has me feeling less alone and a lot more inspired~! xoxoxooxox

  59. Nicole

    November 3rd, 2012 at 6:51 pm

    Beautifully written! It took a lot of courage to be so open and vulnerable. Amazing ladies!

  60. I can't :)

    November 4th, 2012 at 8:14 pm

    dear Jasmine.
    thank you so much for your answer. 🙂

  61. jessica smith

    November 4th, 2012 at 9:47 pm

    It’s ironic that this was one of your recent posts. This past sat I was 2nd shooting for a new guy. During the wedding party shots he all of a sudden asked me to jump in and pose them all. I did. Later at our vendors table over dinner he told me that my posing I had done was lame. All I could think of was you telling the story of your lame dip posing in your Exposed Magazine. It totally made me feel better thinking that you had gone though the same thing. Hey, I might be occasionally lame now, but I have to start some where right? Thanks for being so honest with your fans about yourself and your start. Love you for it!!

  62. Tangie

    November 4th, 2012 at 9:56 pm

    All I can say is, "wow." As much as I know better, I still feel like I am the only photographer in the world that feels depressed and wants to sometimes give up my business. I get so sad, frustrated and so very tired of trying. Depression is a dark cloud that likes to float above me and even when the sun is shining in my life, that dark cloud likes to peek its ugly head back in to let me know: "Hey…you…I’m still here!!!" This post from I Can’t and you, J* show me that I am not alone. I plan on taking a break during this slow period and re-grouping mentally and emotionally. I cannot give up on my dream. I have a passion for photography and I believe that God gave me this talent to bless others. I’ve come too far to give up now. I am going to take some advice from the comments below and keep pressing forward. Thank you so much, J*, for your honesty, inspiration and for sharing yourself with your readers. And thank you, I Can’t, for bringing depression to the forefront so others will know that they are not alone.

  63. LEOLAK

    November 4th, 2012 at 11:50 pm

    Everything about this post is great to see…from I Can’t having the courage to write to you…your response..and all the comments. Beautiful to see. Thank you!

  64. Gino DeMaio

    November 5th, 2012 at 11:21 am

    Now this is a great post, as a psychologist turned photographer, I live how real everyone is, it’s wonderful!

  65. Kat

    November 5th, 2012 at 3:21 pm

    Dear Jasmine,
    Thank you! Nice post reminding us of what is important…I am alive, baffled that my husband loves me =) and my dog also thinks I am the greatest!
    Thanks again!

  66. SHENG

    November 6th, 2012 at 5:59 pm


  67. Lisa P.

    November 7th, 2012 at 6:45 am

    Dear Jasmine and I Can’t, thank you for being so open and honest. Your willingness to be so open, based on the responses to the post, has touched a lot of people including myself.

  68. Denise Prichett

    November 8th, 2012 at 2:47 am

    It is amazing to me that you have this topic on your blog this month, this year!!! I think I mentioned in another comment section on this blog about losing my mother this year – in August. This is my 10th year shooting professionally – I started as a staff photog for a small wedding company before starting my own biz. For this year, I had all these plans – a look back at my photography through the years, etc. But losing my mother coupled with fewer clients and clients not paying for services in a timely fashion – makes me ask myself why am I still doing this – what is my real purpose. This depression or funk that I am is SO hard..some days are really harder than others. The only thing that helps me….is seeing little signs from God…like this blog post today or calls/texts from my friends checking on me or my photog friends pushing me to stay in the phtoto game. Thanks to all the angels here on Earth. And to the soul who had the courage to reach out to you, Jasmine…may you have friends or someone to help you when you really really need saving. Thanks J* for sharing yourself with the Internet!

  69. Kristi

    November 8th, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    It helps to hear what you’ve been through rough times in your life when you are so successful now. It means we are all just human.

  70. Dana Laymon

    November 8th, 2012 at 4:53 pm

    couldn’t more a more perfect timing for this post. support is so important and it feels so much better to know you’re not alone. that you’re not crazy 🙂 hope is important and keep trucking through! just remember, people aren’t usually affraid of failure, they’re affraid of success!

  71. Marian Majik

    November 9th, 2012 at 9:08 pm

    Beautiful picture – it looks that I need holiday….

  72. Bobbie Brown

    November 12th, 2012 at 3:06 am

    This post was so well written and real. I love hearing your input and hope that "I can’t" feels better soon

  73. Alaina Bos

    November 12th, 2012 at 2:06 pm

    Thank you for responding to "I can’t" even if it was difficult to do. You wear your heart on your sleeve and the validation of my own feelings is so appreciated. At times while I was reading your post I felt like you stole the words from my own mind!

  74. Hailey Aliamus

    January 18th, 2014 at 8:02 pm

    this. touched me in so many ways. i am a (very) young photographer still learning, still just taking photos of just family and friends for free. this, helped. dealing with all the same things and wishing i had someone to be there and listen is such a beautiful thing. thank you for answering this, i am sure it touched many many people’s hearts. this is the only thing that makes sense to me, now. all these beautiful and lovely words and sentences are such a blessing and will be bookmarked forever. i will never forget this. thank you, thank you, thank you.

  75. Meg Thornton

    November 24th, 2015 at 11:27 am

    Hi Jasmine,
    This is really inspirational post! I am still learning to deal with motivation and creative depression. I have actually been so inspired by this that I have blogged about it on my website!…/confidence-in-your-…

  76. Bo

    April 13th, 2016 at 6:20 am

    When you leave something to go for your passion it is a big decision and people do not like changes. I think it is a normal reaction for the change of life and it is good for people to know you are not alone and hold on. IT WILL PASS and you come out stronger than ever.
    For me it was a very tough beginning but i didnt give up. Thanks for sharing