Falling Behind for All the Right Reasons


She called me yesterday. At the peak of my productivity time, I sat at my desk and a tried figuring out the best way to scratch things off my list. I feverishly edited, emailed, and sang. Because singing increases productivity levels. Oh, yes it does. When my phone rang, I answered it and chatted with my sweet mom. She mentioned she was on my side of town and planned on lunching by herself. Which, in my mother’s language, means Will you please join me?

I stumbled for words. Uhhh, work, a wedding edit, uhhh, email. Then I jerked my head straight. No way. No flippin’ way. There was no way I was going to turn her down. For years I wanted a job that gave me the flexibility to meet my mom for lunch. For the years she was in the hospital with brain cancer, I hated myself for not taking her out more often. And now that I was given the chance, I was just going to squander it for what? Email? An edit? No flippin’ way.

We met at a cafe in Costa Mesa and when it was time to leave, I kissed her 14 times on her cheeks. Left, right, left, right, left…. It’s just something I do. After a long hug, she started to cry. She looked at me with tired eyes and said, It’s in these moments I feel alive.

Oh, mama, thanks for reminding me that life is best felt when you’re alive, in each moment.

JD took this picture of one of my mom’s favorite flowers on our trip to Puerto Rico with my family. It sits on my desktop as a reminder to live life. Fully. I’ll be blogging last weekend’s wedding tomorrow, as well as a few fun shoots soon! 🙂

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  1. Penny

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:46 pm

    Mom’s….they are the best. My wish is that when my daughter is the age I am now, that she loves me just as much as I love her at this very moment in time.

  2. Jennifer Rodriguez-Cruz

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:47 pm

    Great post! I totally agree 🙂
    Glad you had a great day!

  3. Neha

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:47 pm

    So sweet and inspirational! Life is meant to be enjoyed!!!

  4. TH

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:47 pm

    I.love.you. Not because of the fact that you are one of the greatest photographers! I’m gonna call my mom tonight!

  5. Christine Meintjes

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:48 pm

    My mom did the exact same thing the other day and I’m so glad I joined her for lunch! 🙂 As photographers we will always have work and some times you have to think about where your priorities are…GO Jasmine*

  6. Rebecca

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:49 pm

    I wish my mom lived close enough to lunch. Phoenix is a bit of a commute from Seattle though. 😉 So I take my dad up on every opportunity to do lunch. Good decision!

  7. Misti

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:49 pm

    I love this Jasmine! I made a promise to myself several years ago that I would never let work get in the way of the things that were most important to me…my Family. Thank you for sharing this story!

  8. Beth

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:50 pm

    thanks for the reminder Jasmine 🙂 beautiful photo JD! 🙂

  9. Tira J

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:50 pm


  10. Lisa

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:50 pm

    moms are the best gifts from God 🙂

  11. Julian Moniz

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:51 pm

    You know J*…This was a short post…but it’s posts like these which make me continuously follow your blog. You make the simple things in life sound so great. And I think you are awesome for that. Because the little things ARE SO GREAT!!! Thank you for sharing this…I called up my mom right away and told her I loved her.

  12. Candice {The Beautiful Mess}

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:51 pm


  13. Miranda Renee

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:52 pm

    That is so sweet. You should never pass up opportunities like that. Like you said, you never know when you will want those opportunities back.

  14. Fran M

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:53 pm

    Sooo beautiful. What a great post! Made my day reading it!

  15. Candy Howard

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:53 pm

    Oh, Jasmine! What a wonderful post! Absolutely the right reason! My father passed away a year ago, and I would give anything for a nice visit like you and your mom shared today. Keep it up, and keep up those hugs and kisses!

  16. April

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:54 pm

    Beautiful. Just take a moment to breathe.

  17. Linda Sherrill

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:54 pm

    Beautiful…just beautiful.
    Thanks for the timely reminder to always make time for others…

  18. Krista

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:55 pm

    Got a little teary-eyed reading this one. Thanks for the reminder to pay attention to what really matters: the people I love.

  19. Marisa Schibilla

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:55 pm

    Jasmine, this is so sweet and so real. It made me tear up! I am glad you decided to go have lunch with her. How easy we let our work consume our every moment. Thanks for being an inspiration to all of your readers to "live life fully."

  20. Erika

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:56 pm

    Thanks, Jasmine. I think we all probably needed to hear that today.

  21. Norman Rubenis

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:56 pm

    Hi Jasmine.

    I just stumbled across your blog somewhere in the ethos of the web and OMG!

    Like a breath of fresh air, your images are so beautiful and inspiring, such simple spontaneity and candid in your approach. I absolutely love your style of work.

    Actually, I have just remembered, I found you through the amazing Crash Taylor. I love the look of your blog, best I have ever seen.

    Your notes about meeting Mum for lunch struck a chord.

    Thanks for the inspiration.


  22. Michael D

    October 22nd, 2009 at 6:59 pm

    Thanks for the life reminder. I look back with lots of regret, years later after my mom passed away. You can never do enough, but to try to do as much as you can will leave you with fewer regrets.

  23. Christina

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:01 pm

    I love reading your blog for the stories as much as for the amazing images. You have a way with words! I get teary-eyed every time I read one of your wedding descriptions:)

  24. imthiaz houseman

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:01 pm

    oh, Jasmine now that i’m in tears, you reminded me of how much i miss those days with my mom. she lives in another state and i wish i could see her everyday like i used too. i love following your blog because you remind everyone of the little things in life that we might take for granted or pass on because we think there might be another day.
    thank you. 🙂

  25. Amanda Herzberger

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 pm

    Well you made me cry. I’m visiting my Dad now who beat cancer last year and now I’m heading outside to spend the afternoon with him in the garden…editing can wait! THANK YOU.

  26. Becka Knight (Studio222 Photography)

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 pm

    Beautiful reminder. What kind of flower is it?

  27. Amanda Reseburg

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 pm

    This got me teary eyed. I wrote a similar blog about being thankful that my job gave me the flexibility to spend time with my grandmother before she passed.

    It’s so great that you recognize how important and special these moments are. So wonderful!

  28. Jenny Duffy

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:05 pm

    Hi Jasmine! Thanks for reminding me of something I need to do with my family. Your job and this blog is so very important and really really makes a difference!

  29. staci

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:06 pm

    Absolutely. ABSOLUTELY! I have 3 small children & an amazing husband…and becoming a photographer was about being able to be the kind of mom who is available. The kind of wife who can be home with her husband. The past two years have been extremely crazy. Last year…we made a major move back to my hometown & my husband was without work for a little while. I had to step it up & work hard in my business. But, once he got a job…I continued to work like a mad woman & in August, I was so overwhelmed. I really took an inventory of my vision for my business & one main key in my vision is to ALWAYS put my children & family first. With that…even though I had 20-30 inquiries in my inbox & voicemail…I decided that I would take 5 sessions…something manageable so that I could finish up my summer work & enjoy my schedule for Octobe/November. One of the hardest things I had to do! But, there comes a point where we all have to do what we have to do & be in tune with what we really want out of life. I just had to trust that I was making the right decision & those inquiries will come back next season if they are meant to be. Thank you for being sensitive to your family & making that better choice to have lunch with your mom. The work will always be there. People in our lives may not.

  30. Marissa Rodriguez

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:07 pm

    One of my favorite posts from you! Very powerful!

  31. Gina Yesnik

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:10 pm

    thank you for this… sometimes opportunities knock ever so quietly… but echo loud in our hearts years down the road when we remember we had the opportunity and we choose to say "next time"…. may we all be so luck to have a next time….
    This was perfect timing with me with so much work and 3 little people wanting mommy time – GOD BLESS YOU and your family!

  32. Nicole Haley

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:10 pm

    Beautiful, Jasmine. Thank you for this reminder. It’s so necessary.

  33. Jo LeFlufy

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:13 pm

    Dang straight!!

  34. Dawn Beirnes

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:13 pm

    Wow, what perfect timing for me to hear your words. With all that’s going on in my life, finances (just got a call from a bill collector) this post made me think…REALLY think about what’s important.
    Thanks Jasmine

  35. Regina White

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:14 pm

    So true. Thanks for reminding us that. (as I wipe tears away)

  36. emily

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:15 pm

    absolutely beautiful post. It brought tears to my eyes, you know in the good way. 🙂 Thanks for the reminder, in this rush it is important to remember the most important people.

  37. Joe+Kathrina

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:16 pm

    Darn you for making me cry! But thank you for reminding us all what really matters in life

  38. HeatherA

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:18 pm

    tears streaming down…
    so beautifully written…

  39. anniecat

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:20 pm

    Jasmine, thank you for sharing that. It made me tear up. Moms are the best.

  40. Leyla

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:22 pm

    I needed this today… Thank you for the reminder of what is most precious and important in life! And good for you for recognizing that in your own life. You are such an inspiration to us all! Keep up the great attitude, sista! =)

  41. sharon snow

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:23 pm

    makes me cry.
    i’m getting off the computer right now and going out with my family! thank you.

  42. whitney elizabeth

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:25 pm

    mama’s rock…no ifs, ands or buts about it! 🙂 love this post 🙂

  43. Katie Beverley

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:28 pm

    Beautiful post, Jasmine! Love your work and love your voice… what a wonderful reminder today prioritize!

  44. Kayla Renckly

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:32 pm

    You are so right, speaks to me right now spending all this time on the computer when what I wanted to be was a stay at home mom

  45. B

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:32 pm

    Haha. I have the best job because I get to kiss mom 14 times EVERY DAY. Jealous? You should be 😉

  46. Meg

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:39 pm

    While I am coming to a break in the craziness that I am calling my life right now this post couldn’t ring more true. Sometimes, you just have to turn the monitor off and do what your heart feels like doing. The funny thing about what we do is, our clients actually end up benefiting from our breaks. In taking the time to refresh and remind ourselves what is most important our creativity and productivity can flourish! Thanks for the dose of reality! 🙂

  47. kristen holly

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:39 pm

    I love this so much. We all tire ourselves crazy trying to keep up, working more and more, harder and harder. And what for? Isn’t the reason we have our own businesses is that we can make our own schedules and have more freedom? Thank you for the thought. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s been spreading too thin and working too much. I’m glad you took the liberty to have lunch with mom. I called mine today <3

  48. Elisha Hawryluk

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:40 pm

    Im glad that you realized what is really important… That’s the biggest thing I have learned… Pictures and emails will still be there later and my 3 little boys are growing up fast… I would much rather make a fort or cuddle with them than try to explain… sorry boys mommy really needs to get this done today 🙂

  49. Lydia

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:40 pm

    What a great reminder. I’ll be living life to the fullest today by baking pumpkin bread and visiting the pumpkin farm with friends and family instead of sitting in front of my new MacBook Pro!

  50. Jere Dotten Photography

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:42 pm

    You are a great gal! Would be great to meet you one day. Let us know if you are ever in North Carolina! You could stay at our place.

  51. jasmine johnson

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:46 pm

    good choice! i love reading your posts about family… my mom had cancer in her brain as well but i no longer have her. how i wish i could stop editing to go have lunch and kiss her on the cheeks 14 times 🙂

  52. stephanie karen stocking

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:51 pm

    so beautiful the moments we often pass in life are the ones that could the most intimate and special we share with others.

  53. Jesamin Califf

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:58 pm

    Thank you.

  54. Mark Daams

    October 22nd, 2009 at 7:58 pm

    Ahhh, how sweet. Very nice photo too.

  55. Melissa @ Whooo's That Girl

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:01 pm

    What a wonderful reminder. You made the right choice. ;p

  56. Pamela Telgenhoff

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:06 pm

    You have a way of making me take a second…very LONG look at my life…Thanks for being you and for sharing.

  57. Megan

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:11 pm

    Wonderful post, SO true.

  58. janet

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:23 pm

    Thanks again to my friend, though we have never met, I feel I know you. You give me daily inspiration. Youu’re my Jas-peration!

  59. Alejandra Arroyo

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:26 pm

    SUPER SWEET Jasmine!! Our mamacita’s will always come first especially after they have done so much for us! ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR POST and just reading it makes my preggers butt want to cry!

  60. Pol

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:35 pm

    I forget too often…

  61. Charisse

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    Well I am a blog stalker. I have read your blog for sometime but have never commented until now.This entry was truly inspiring. Your photography is always wonderful…however, your prose is just as great! Spending time with the ones that matter is really what makes the world go round for me. I feel just like that about my mother and children. Thanks for sharing.

  62. Elizabeth Luna

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:49 pm

    Totally FEEL you on this! God sure rocks our own agenda’s huh! Thank you for sharing <3

  63. Lindsey Hartsough

    October 22nd, 2009 at 8:58 pm

    What an amazing reminder. Life is really too short and we, who are lucky enough to own our own businesses and do what we love need to remember to take time out for all of our friends and family. Thank you!

  64. Jocelyn Chi

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:02 pm

    What a great reminder to prioritize the things that are really important! I’m so glad you chose to spend time with your mom! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  65. Ashley Mauro

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:09 pm


  66. Holly B.

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:27 pm

    Beautiful post! I lost my dad to brain cancer earlier this year and I would do anything to have one more lunch with him. Its a beautiful thing to live life in the moment.

  67. Shilpi

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:28 pm

    Remembering your fun days, with parents are always great. Reading your post, I feel blessed to have one such of a kind.

  68. Maria

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:31 pm

    Omg!! this made me teary eyed!!

  69. Yuka photo art

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:34 pm

    Thank you Jasmine, you help us to make right decision in our life!

  70. Amanda Carlson

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:54 pm

    What a great post and a wonderful reminder.

  71. Maria

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:57 pm

    Thank you for the reminder, Jasmine. Many blessings to you and your Mom 🙂

  72. Emily Howlett

    October 22nd, 2009 at 9:58 pm

    Thank you Jasmine 🙂

  73. diane (www.sagephoto.com)

    October 22nd, 2009 at 10:01 pm

    So glad you opted to enjoy lunch with your mom instead of anything else on your "to do list"! Good for you…you made the right decision.

  74. MelissaF

    October 22nd, 2009 at 10:10 pm

    What a wonderful reminder about priorities. Thank you, Jasmine.

  75. Dawn McCarthy

    October 22nd, 2009 at 10:14 pm

    I always enjoy your Blogs! Last night I was shooting a benefit for cancer in my hometown in remembrance of my Father, whom I lost to cancer. I am thankful that you stopped what you were doing and took your Mom to lunch!

  76. Angi

    October 22nd, 2009 at 10:19 pm

    Just another reason I read your blog – you write what I need to hear…

  77. Alison Edwards

    October 22nd, 2009 at 10:30 pm

    Oh so true….we should always make time for the special people in our lives; we will get the jobs done even if it’s an hour or day later.

  78. Jackie L.

    October 22nd, 2009 at 10:55 pm

    what a great post! There just isn’t anything that can replace a mother’s love and love for life. They are the best!

  79. Jason Grubb

    October 22nd, 2009 at 11:03 pm

    So true… Moms are very important in our lives!

  80. Erica Velasco

    October 22nd, 2009 at 11:56 pm


  81. heather

    October 23rd, 2009 at 12:50 am

    amen Jasmine! My dad passed from cancer 1.5 years ago and I would love to have one last lunch & football game with him. cherish the times!

  82. melissa

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:01 am

    beautiful reminder. thank you.

  83. Therese Beth Photography

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:07 am

    Wow…I came across this post at just the right time! I just got off the phone with my mom who is going through a real hard time right now and you are absolutely right. I’m feelin’ the love.

  84. Kim Kalyn

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:12 am

    I loved this so much 🙂 It was such a great reminder and one I needed to hear, so thank you!

  85. Alicia Damron

    October 23rd, 2009 at 2:07 am

    What a great sentiment, it totally made me think about how lucky I am to still have my mama, and to appreciate it.

  86. Angela

    October 23rd, 2009 at 2:49 am

    *tearing*and calling my Mom right now;-)

  87. jessicarden

    October 23rd, 2009 at 2:49 am

    my mom too has survived brain cancer! it is so important to time to appreciate all of our life’s miracle’s and tell our mothers how much we love them:)

  88. Keri Welch

    October 23rd, 2009 at 2:57 am

    Beautiful post, Jasmine. A lovely reminder to take the time for those you love.

  89. Rebecca

    October 23rd, 2009 at 3:05 am

    I’ve never commented on any of your beautiful, poetic blog postings but this one brought tears to my eyes! Bravo to you for putting away the work to spend time with your mom! It is something we should all strive to do for those of us who are still lucky to have their parents in their lives..

  90. gina

    October 23rd, 2009 at 3:13 am

    thanks for reminders of what life is all about!

  91. Helen Criston Kelleher

    October 23rd, 2009 at 3:26 am

    You are a special girl Jasmine Star. Wonderful post.

  92. Toni

    October 23rd, 2009 at 3:59 am

    Beautiful! I lost my mom almost five years ago now. Your post made me cry. I’m glad you took time for your mom.

  93. Nichole

    October 23rd, 2009 at 4:15 am

    awww…you have me tearing up over here : (

    Your right enjoy life : )

  94. tammi l.

    October 23rd, 2009 at 6:40 am

    i almost lost my mom 4 years ago and am grateful for a 2nd chance in this lifetime – I’m glad you went and didn’t take it for granted

  95. Holli True

    October 23rd, 2009 at 6:58 am

    Love it!! 🙂 Scribbled on a purple post-it in red pen is a note from my precious son, Cole (6 yrs old): I LOVE YOU. I’ve had it here in front of me for 2 weeks now. I’m having it framed because it just makes me so happy. 🙂 Here’s to enjoying life’s precious moments!!

  96. Sarah W

    October 23rd, 2009 at 10:18 am

    WOW!!! Wiping tears from my cheek! So Beautiful:)

  97. Stephanie Stewart

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:19 pm

    What a sweet story! Love your decision. Your Mom and every Mom will love this story.
    Gorgeous flower, and great reminder that JD captured.

  98. George Natis

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:39 pm

    I am near to tears. Lovely said and absolutely true.

  99. Tracy

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:47 pm

    That is so sweet! I am so thankful to have my mom in my life, and now that I have my own daughters I appreciate her and what she did for me so much more!

  100. Sue

    October 23rd, 2009 at 1:57 pm

    Thank you for sharing your sweet story about your Momma. Funny how we can get caught up in things of our everyday life when really what’s most important are the moments that we make time for the ones we love. I’m going to kiss my Momma today!

  101. Janna

    October 23rd, 2009 at 2:01 pm

    OK now I am crying….and I have to go to work!

  102. Kay English

    October 23rd, 2009 at 4:25 pm

    You should have been a writer…

  103. Nancy Ramos

    October 23rd, 2009 at 5:20 pm

    You are so fortunate to still have lunch with your mom and enjoy her hugs and kisses too. Really blessed.

  104. Eugene

    October 23rd, 2009 at 5:42 pm

    Beautiful reminder about the most important thing in life: family and friends.

  105. Ioana

    October 23rd, 2009 at 7:32 pm

    This post made me tear up.. as I love my mom so much and she lives half across the world.. so I would do anything to have moments like this with her.
    Thanks Jasmine for sharing this.

  106. Renee Mader

    October 23rd, 2009 at 7:47 pm

    ok…you just made me cry. I miss my mother and would give so many things to have what you had in a 14 kiss afternoon. I am so happy for you…

  107. Nycia

    October 23rd, 2009 at 7:53 pm

    WOW!! You just know how to put words together so well, especially when reflecting those certain emotions that we all seem to feel.. Taking the time to share those alive moments, nothing compares. You are truly an inspiration Jasmine and I love reading your blog. I hope to someday get the chance to meet you and chat with you in person. 🙂

  108. Roshan

    October 24th, 2009 at 5:21 am

    WOW!!! I am 39 years old. My mom was struck by a drunk driver as she was walking down a highway and died instantly when I was three. I will never get over this painful loss. I still love to hear mother and daughter stories. Thank u!!! U are a gem.

  109. kris rupp

    October 24th, 2009 at 8:40 pm

    Good choice for sure.

  110. sarah Javaheri

    October 25th, 2009 at 3:06 pm

    crying now. (sobbering inc.)

  111. Hallie

    October 26th, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    I enjoy your blog not only because of your amazing work, but through you work it’s easy to see that you have an amazing heart! It’s reflected in the beauty of your work. It’s amazing how sometimes we almost forget the things that really matter. Glad you chose to have lunch with your mom, those are moments that you can never replace. 🙂

  112. ohana photographers

    October 26th, 2009 at 6:42 pm

    good for you! it’s so hard to rip yourself away from the computer. i’m beginning to think there is some kind of force field keeping me there. :/

  113. amy boring

    October 27th, 2009 at 8:58 pm

    so sweet. ::wipes single tear::

  114. megmanionsilliker

    October 28th, 2009 at 12:13 pm

    i didn’t expect to burst into tears reading this post. but i did. i miss my own mom every single day of my life and would give anything to have my phone ring and hear her voice asking me to lunch! you are so lucky. i am so glad you dropped everything and went. our moms. our hearts. our life – so so so much more important. xo

  115. aurora

    October 28th, 2009 at 2:05 pm

    I love everything about this post, it’s about remembering why you started 😉 always

  116. amanda thiessen

    October 28th, 2009 at 8:07 pm

    lovely <3


    October 29th, 2009 at 2:16 pm

    Awww….what a touching story! Thank you for sharing this. Such an inspiration! Thanks for reminding all of us what should be important in our lives and that we should all enjoy every precious moment…like this one.

  118. Life with Kaishon

    November 2nd, 2009 at 4:00 pm

    Crying. Great big tears of happiness!

    A love like that, well, it is one of the most wonderful kinds of love.

    I am so glad you went!