J* Version of Romance


A couple nights ago, JD walked in from the grocery store and placed the bags on the kitchen counter. As he peeled away the plastic bags, he lifted something small from the furthest bag from me. Oh, look what I found for you… He proceeded to pass me a brightly-colored toothbrush. And not just any toothbrush. It was the extra soft, pimped-out toothbrush I had been in search of for the past couple weeks. I love flossing and brushing my teeth, so I thought it was an extraordinarily nice gesture. I flung my arms around his neck and sighed. That’s so romantic!

JD blinked a few times in confusion, but let the moment pass unadulterated by questions.

Later that evening, as we walked Polo along a darkened path, JD resurrected the issue. Jaz, being romantic is sometimes hard with you…I mean, your kind of romanticism. I walked in silence because he was right. Earlier that day we brunched with my best friends in Los Angeles, so as we walked, he continued that my friends were a little less complicated. Romantically speaking, that is. A dozen roses, a nice steak dinner, a glass of champagne, a good concert…that’s where he’d take any of them if it was their wedding anniversary.

Ooooooh, I got it. He’s stressin’ because he still hasn’t figured out what we’re doing for our wedding anniversary this Friday.

I tried explaining that flowers given on a day when a girl is supposed to get flowers is nice, but not romantic. Flowers given on a random Thursday just because? Well, that’s romantic. A nice steak dinner (or in my case, tofu steak!) just to celebrate being alive is romantic. A toothbrush bought late one evening because you thought of your wife’s love affair with dental hygiene…that’s romantic.

Or at least that’s my kind of romanticism. And that’s everything JD naturally does. Random tuberose bouquets sprinkled around the living room, toasts celebrating random Monday nights, toothbrushes. I love it.

So, the only thing I want this Friday, I continued on my quasi-philosophical diatribe, is for us to be together…doing everything and nothing at once. Loving and laughing like it was our last day on Earth…that’s all I want, nothing more.

This is a picture my best friend, Bri, snapped of us at brunch last Sunday at TART. It was such a lovely afternoon and when I left I realized how blessed I am to have so many fabulous people in my life.

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  1. Amy

    September 25th, 2007 at 7:26 pm

    Awww you guys are so cute, I love it!

  2. cathy

    September 25th, 2007 at 7:39 pm


  3. Gloria P.

    September 25th, 2007 at 8:14 pm

    I need a barf bag please. Disgustingly adorable seriously. 🙂 And you’re both gorgeous! Happy early anniversary.

  4. gabriel ryan

    September 25th, 2007 at 8:34 pm

    carlie and i just had our tw0-month-iversary, and i would like to say that we had a romantic evening… we spent our night at a marriage seminar at our church, put on by two christian (sex) therapists (<—– can i say that here)

  5. C.J. Scott

    September 25th, 2007 at 8:41 pm

    Jasmine…congrats to you and JD on your upcoming anniversary! Cam and I just celebrated two years yesterday! I find random sweet gestures romantic too 🙂

  6. Jolene

    September 25th, 2007 at 9:20 pm

    couldn’t agree with you more. I just blogged about our 2 year wedding anniversary. I do love when I get flowers when I’m "supposed" to but nothing makes me happier than flowers on a random Tuesday or a love note left inside my lunch bag. You two are adorable. 🙂

  7. Stacy Cross

    September 25th, 2007 at 9:46 pm

    sooo sweet. i totally know what you mean! to me it’s all about the small gestures that show that they’re listening to you and watching you. 🙂 way to go, jd! yall look gorgeous in this pic, by the way!

  8. Levell

    September 25th, 2007 at 10:19 pm

    Lets not forget about JD he needs the same thing in return. So all you ladies men loves those things too… At least I do.

  9. sara anthony

    September 25th, 2007 at 10:36 pm

    Oh my, could you two be any cuter!?

  10. Brianna

    September 25th, 2007 at 10:42 pm

    OMG…who took this fabulous picture and emailed it to you right away???…they sure are a great friend and a fantastic photographer to boot! 😉

  11. Nataly

    September 25th, 2007 at 10:51 pm

    I completely agree with you! I love getting chocolates and flowers, but they’re even sweeter when you do not expect them.

    Happy (early) anniversary!

  12. Kate Mefford

    September 25th, 2007 at 11:03 pm

    Very Sweet!!!

    I think we both have amazing men in our lives! =) Congrats on your anni!

  13. Jasmine C.

    September 25th, 2007 at 11:07 pm

    Congrats on your upcoming anniversary! 🙂

  14. cassandra m

    September 26th, 2007 at 12:33 am

    that is toooo sweet…just like a FAIRYTALE! I love how much your husband adores you and respect the fact that you appreciate it! heres to many many years for you two. hey is that a mimosa? yum yum 🙂

  15. Jess Strickland

    September 26th, 2007 at 12:35 am

    AMEN!!! soo true! love it!!

  16. Justine Ungaro

    September 26th, 2007 at 1:59 am

    What a lovely post Jasmine, I totally agree with the sentiment!

  17. david baxter

    September 26th, 2007 at 2:09 am

    congratulations you two! be happy always.

  18. DavidHam

    September 26th, 2007 at 6:09 am

    Meaningful romanticism, that’s what I call it. You get it…and just as importantly, your spouse gets it. And being together to do "everything but nothing at once" could not be said better for me and my wife as well. I get it.

  19. Amy Nave

    September 26th, 2007 at 6:45 am

    Can I get a here here:) Such a cute story.

    Miss you!

  20. Shy

    September 26th, 2007 at 7:15 am

    Oh Jazzy… I love you!
    haha. you are so right… you are OH SO RIGHT!


  21. Simply Modern Weddings

    September 26th, 2007 at 8:42 am

    I totally agree!!

    Early congrats on your anniversary!! You both are so adorable!

  22. kerri mcconnell

    September 26th, 2007 at 11:41 am


  23. Mary

    September 26th, 2007 at 2:03 pm

    You guys are too darn cute!!! Congrats on your upcoming anniversary! That JD, he’s a keeper!! xoxo M:)

  24. Holly McCaig

    September 26th, 2007 at 2:59 pm

    How positively adorable.

  25. Tiffany

    September 26th, 2007 at 4:00 pm

    Hello cuteness!

  26. korey

    September 26th, 2007 at 4:51 pm

    I agree!! Once, after teasing me for only eating the pink and blue gummy worms out of a bag (because he said they all taste the same), Josh showed up to pick me up for dinner with a baggy on the passenger seat–he had taken ALL the pink and blue worms out for me. I thought, "now this is love!"

  27. Joyful Weddings & Events

    September 26th, 2007 at 5:00 pm

    So sweet & so true! Isn’t it crazy how quickly two years goes by?

  28. ScotWharton

    September 26th, 2007 at 5:08 pm

    Am I the only person that wants to see the toothbrush? — Is that weird? — Happy EARLY Anniversary!

  29. Kristy

    September 26th, 2007 at 7:54 pm

    I think I"M in love! 🙂

  30. kristen dawn

    September 26th, 2007 at 8:23 pm

    No! I want to see the toothbrush too! Is it pink with a gum massager…?? ooooh.

  31. Sarah Shalley

    September 27th, 2007 at 12:17 am

    sounds familiar…i’m the same way. i love random romanticism.

  32. mark brooke

    September 27th, 2007 at 12:56 am

    J* i feel like MY wife wrote this post you two deffinately need to hang out. i think you would be awe-struck at how much you two are alike!

  33. angel swanson

    September 27th, 2007 at 5:14 am

    you two are such a beautiful couple. happy early anniversary! 🙂

  34. Scarlett Lillian

    September 27th, 2007 at 5:25 am

    Totally teary eyed on that one. Happy Anniversary you guys!

  35. DJ

    September 27th, 2007 at 6:36 am


  36. Regina

    September 27th, 2007 at 4:25 pm

    Awh! What a sweetie….he’s a keeper forsure!
    Happy Anniversary….

  37. Jeanette

    September 27th, 2007 at 5:45 pm

    Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs De La Torre!! Here’s to 2 beautiful years of bliss…each year gets better & better!! Ü Love Mr & Mrs Garces!!

  38. Andie

    September 27th, 2007 at 9:25 pm

    Happy Anniversary! How many years? Today is my 5th anniversary, so I totally get you.
    And I told my honey the same thing… those things are what are romantic!

  39. Sue Jean

    September 28th, 2007 at 2:25 pm

    Yay! Happy Anniversary!! I’ve got to say, you put a smile on my face for being so good to your teeth! 🙂

  40. Sarah Barlow

    September 28th, 2007 at 3:02 pm

    Soooo adorable!! You guys are just too cute! Happy Anniversary!! Love you so much!

  41. Ana Gabriela

    September 28th, 2007 at 3:06 pm

    I HEAR YOUUUU!!! definately ROMANTIC!!! hahaha

  42. craig d

    September 28th, 2007 at 3:46 pm

    Happy Anniversary! I enjoyed hanging with you guys breifly in February at Mike’s workshop. You guys are great.

  43. craig d

    September 28th, 2007 at 3:46 pm

    Happy Anniversary! I enjoyed hanging with you guys breifly in February at Mike’s workshop. You guys are great.

  44. davina

    October 10th, 2007 at 5:51 pm

    Jasmine, I’m so with you on the whole romanticism idea. I don’t want flowers on Valentine’s Daywhen they cost a handsome fortune and everyone is ‘supposed to get them. It’s just not that romantic. But on a day when I’m having a difficult day or my husband walks by them and just gets them just because…now THAT’S romantic. And that’s the kind of husband I have. I’m super blessed. And thanks for putting into words so perfectly what I believe. Love it!

  45. Kay English

    July 29th, 2009 at 3:15 pm

    Aww how romantic! Happy Anniversary! Mine is coming up on Aug 8th and I’m so excited (even though I’m shooting a wedding that day 🙁