Kisses+Disses : Scrabble + Summer Nights


We’ve stopped playing games together. In fact, we pretty much halted anything that, oh, requires us to stare each other in the face as opponents. It started with a game of Scrabble and ended with me flipping the board and tiled letters when JD cheated won. That was three years ago. We also stopped playing tennis, Snood , and the occasional game of hangman because we’re the type of couple who kept a running tally who was beating who. Yes, as in marks on a tiny sheet of paper listing victories and losses.

You’re probably thinking we need therapy. WELCOME TO THE CLUB.

After the Scrabble Flipping Incident of 2008, I decided to take a break from competitive…well…competitive anything, which has proven difficult since we challenge each other daily. Who fell asleep first? Who can drink the veggie smoothie the fastest? Who loads the dish washer better?

A few days ago, JD suggested buying a Xbox (Com’on, Jas, it even plays BluRay!), but I politely declined. I mean, I can’t even make it through a board game without threatening divorce…could you just imagine me playing Halo?!?

This brings me to another installment of Kisses and Disses

This week’s DISSES go to…
*Games. They’re clearly what’s wrong with marriage in America these days.
*Newsletters. Just because I emailed someone in the past doesn’t mean I automatically want to added to their list.
*Peanut Butter Capt’n Crunch. JD promised it’d change my life, but this cereal pretty much lacks the awesome that is Cinnamon Toast Crunch. Duh.

This week’s KISSES go to…
*Organic oranges. I’m obsessed.
*Midnight in Paris. Woody Allen’s newest movie just made me swoon and if you’re into what life in Paris during the 1940’s looked like, this is for you!
*Summer nights. Long walks, late dinners, and dusky skies at 8pm…perfection!

Happy Friday!

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  1. Eileen

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:02 pm

    Hahahahahaha.. I cried once when my ex husband beat me at scrabble 3 times in a row. I feel ya!

  2. Catie Ronquillo

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:06 pm

    My hubby and I play Words with Friends (Scrabble-esque game on the iPhone) and every time he wins (or plays a FAKE word) I tell him he cheated. Because how could he play a words like "heteras" (also why does WWF accept it) because he just was playing around with his available letters until something accepted it. Although, if you do come upon a game night, I highly recommend the game Apples to Apples, played it for the first time a few weeks ago.

  3. Sara Neff

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:07 pm

    My husband and I can’t even play pop-o-matic trouble together. yes, I said pop-o-matic trouble.

  4. Kate Douthwright

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:07 pm

    Your blog is literally the only one that makes me L to the O to the L. My fiance and I have an XBOX at home but whenever he’s playing it is when I catch up on my reality tv. In fact, I yell at him for getting off of it early and interrupting my stories. Men!

  5. Sarah Mariel

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:07 pm

    Hahaha! I love this! My hubby and I can’t play games together anymore either after a similar incident with checkers. 8 years later and my husband still tells everyone he meets about the checkers pieces flying around the room:)

  6. kim butler

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:08 pm

    i totally understand what you mean, I have had many a fights over Halo. I TOTALLY am way to competitive when it comes to games. I feel ya Jas, I feel ya.

  7. Emily Kicklighter

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:12 pm

    Funny how much fun games were when we were dating! Post-wedding, same experience…thanks for the confirmation about the therapy, Jasmine! Now, 4 kids later and entering teenagerhood, Family Game Night has brought us to new heights of togetherness. Sounds like we should throw in some organic oranges!!

  8. Kelly

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:15 pm

    I can totally related to the game issue, except it’s my dad and me. My husband lets me pretend I win all the time til I get good. 😉 My dad on the other hand doesn’t lose anything, very literally anything so I have been bound and determined to make him lose to something for over 2 decades still to no avail, but I haven’t given up the game playing quite yet. 😉

  9. Sue McFarland

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:16 pm

    I can relate, Jasmine. I can’t play games cause I get way toooooo involved! Your post makes me laugh and be happy I am not the only one with this affliction!! Thanks for sharing your life’s ups , downs, good and bads!!

  10. Anton Lenke

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    Cinnamon. Toast. Crunch. Rocks my socks. For us it’s monopoly, but I hear you on that…we’ve had to pick different arenas in a lot of things we were competitive with, but I’ve tried to take when I’ve learned from being a teacher and infuse some of the patience and understanding in myself when I play, practice, and puzzle. Still steering clear of monopoly though 😉

  11. Rachel Tatem

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    You made me laugh with this one!

    I must disagree though I think that Peanut butter capt’n crunch is equally as awesome as cinnamon Toast Crunch you just have to eat them different. CTC is better as an actual cereal were as PBCC is better as a snack with a glass of milk.

    Yes, I am a cereal enthusiast but not quite as much as the guy on flakes… by a bit.

  12. Jodie Lemke

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:21 pm

    you guys are so cute haha! ME and the hubby don’t play games either … its dangerous! Though Settlers of Catan is REALLY fun! I think you could would like that one! It’s more strategy! We get along with this one!! 🙂 And YES Cinnamon Toast Crunch IS amazing! I got away with eating that one weekly while i was preggo with our second hahaha…

  13. Allison

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:22 pm

    I have to agree! This is why my hubby and I play tennis on the same team!!!! Occasionally I have to remind him that I don’t need his advice, but overall it’s a blast!

  14. Lindsey

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:23 pm

    I side with JD on this one and I might add Captain Crunch on Pinkberry yogurt is outstanding.

  15. Elizabeth - Glessner Photography

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:24 pm

    love love LOVED Midnight in Paris! Such a great and incredibly underrated movie!

    …and my husband and I can’t play games together either. Especially if we have to be on the same team. It almost always results in yelling, storming off, accusations of being a cheater, etc.

  16. Camila Fuenzalida

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:24 pm

    Loved this! I smiled when imaging you flipping the scrabble board… You both must be very competitive… it’s cool to know that you both are so realistic in the fact that you fight and yet you are awesome in wanting to prevent it!

  17. Dana

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:28 pm

    I have GOT to see that movie!!! Anything with the beautiful Marion Cotillard in it has to be amazing!!! I would LOVE to photograph her!!!

  18. Emily Dobson

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:28 pm

    When my husband and I were dating, yes DATING, he beat me at a game of Monopoly and I didn’t speak to him for an HOUR. Who the heck plays Monopoly withOUT the intention of trading and selling property?

  19. Dan

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:29 pm

    I love both cereals, but you’re right that Cinnamon Toast Crunch > everything else.

    Also FYI…you can stream music and movies from your computer to your TV, and also things like Netflix via the 360, but I don’t believe it currently has Blu-Ray support. Blu-Ray is a Sony thing, which means a PS3.

  20. MartaV

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:33 pm

    10000% agree with you on the Cinnamon Toast Crunch. It is the best ceral. 2nd place goes to Kellogs fruit and yogurt. 🙂

  21. Alex Omega

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    awesome section… im def. a huge fan!

  22. Jhoan

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    Ohh my my this totally made me giggle!! It reminds me of myself! I love all your posts J* you’re AMAZING!!!

  23. jess

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    I totally kicked my husband’s butt in a potato peeling contest! My cholesterol is lower too. Just by a bit, but still.
    Love your forthright writing. It just makes me laugh.

  24. Kristin Nicole

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:38 pm

    We love playing games…but sometimes it gets messy. Glad we are not the only ones.

  25. Anne T.

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:38 pm

    ooooh, the competitive game thing hits a little too close to home. My husband and I are the SAME way. We just started playing Words With Friends…it’s not pretty. He’s been complaining that he can’t win. 🙂

  26. Becca

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:39 pm

    Oh man. I’m a gamer, as is my fiance, but I’ve got to say… there are some games we just can’t play together. New Super Mario Brother’s Wii is divorce in a box. Such a fun game by yourself… If you do get an xbox, I suggest puzzle games that you have to work together to solve (i.e. Portal 2).

  27. kristin brown

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:41 pm

    my husband and i are the same way with games… we had to stop! i get mean when i win and i get mean when i lose, so… 🙂

  28. Jennifer Hudspeth

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:43 pm

    agreed. agreed. agreed.

  29. Suzy G

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:52 pm

    Lol, we had to give up games 4 years into our marrage …….It was really bad because we loved sorry and life, both of which are just luck of the draw games, and I always won. My poor sweet hubby was slowly being drivin insane by his not so great sportsmenship, lol.

  30. Lindsay Madden

    July 8th, 2011 at 5:52 pm

    My hubby & I saw Midnight in Paris last weekend & I, too, was in love with the movie. It was simply magical & FUN. I love all of Woody Allen’s films though so I might be a tad biased. =D xo

  31. Jenn Best

    July 8th, 2011 at 6:02 pm

    Oooooh, I just saw Midnight in Paris last night. So cute! Now I’m really really wanting to go to Paris!

  32. Tiffany Vaughan

    July 8th, 2011 at 6:10 pm

    Ah, those were the days of SNOOD! My husband and I LOVED that game!!!

  33. Noa

    July 8th, 2011 at 6:24 pm

    I am right there with you — Cinnamon Toast Crunch is the BEST!! I basically lived on this cereal when I served in the Israeli army. You know those freshmen 15 people get in the college here? I gained the Cinnamon Toast Crunch 30 when I served. BLAH! I can’t eat it any more, it reminds me of drills, no AC in my barracks, and sleep deprivation. LOL 🙂

  34. Dee

    July 8th, 2011 at 6:33 pm

    I’m totally with you on the Cinnamon Toast Crunch!

  35. Sarah Layne

    July 8th, 2011 at 6:33 pm

    Loved Midnight in Paris too! Just a heads up, it’s set in the 1920s! 🙂

  36. Christina Dely

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:02 pm

    OMG! This is hilarious! Good call on veto’ing the video game consule. They ruin lives! And hooray for Summer nights! Nothing I love more than bbq’ing & late nights outdoors without freezing!

  37. Leo Bojesen

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:14 pm

    Games…my sister won’t even think of such since I ruined her childhood by winning too much and she ended up getting totally put off. She will probably never play another game for the rest of her life. Sigh. I should’ve let her win now and again.

    And summer nights are awesome! I wish they lasted all year round.

    Cereals…I prefer cinnamon toast crunch and golden grahams but peanut butter crunch is still ok. I’ll eat pretty much anything and I’ll buy whatever is on sale for the week. lol

  38. ashley barnett

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:21 pm

    Ohhh Jasmine this is SO Jeremy and me. We (and I can’t believe I’m admitting this)…play hangman on our iPhones and will literally sit in bed next to each other and play each other. Sometimes, even when I promise that I won’t make another play, I will sneakily wait till he falls asleep and get one last play in. WHO ARE WE?! 🙂

  39. Dawney

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:34 pm

    LOL! Monopoly was actually banned from my parents’ house because it was seriously doing damage to their marriage!
    As far as newsletters go… I would agree with you, with the exception of the J* newsletter! 😉 Have a great weekend!

  40. Juanita

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:35 pm

    Ha ha! There were five kids in my family growing up and we were banned from playing Monopoly because it was too competitive and we got mean. We still are…I visited my sister recently and we played Scrabble, which I took great delight in winning and her response was similar to yours 🙂

  41. Autumn Teesdale

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:41 pm

    That movie is on my "to see list" (Yes you’re not the only list queen out there…I think I am obsessed with lists!) and I love PB Capn Crunch…but Fruit Loops is my daily vice!

  42. Shannon Wimberly

    July 8th, 2011 at 7:57 pm


  43. Erin

    July 8th, 2011 at 8:18 pm

    You have just described exactly why my husband and I will never play games against each other because we are the EXACT same way. For better or worse. So we generally play on a team and them team up against friends/family/whoever decides to go up against us.

    And I second summer nights! SO wonderful! Happy weekend!

  44. rich

    July 8th, 2011 at 9:38 pm

    friendly competition is hard to keep healthy! we play words with friends now against one another and yes – it becomes a battle just like your scrabble games, haha!

  45. Sydni Jackson

    July 8th, 2011 at 10:47 pm

    Cinnamon Toast Crunch is the best cereal ever! Sorry you can’t play games together – hope you can eventually find one that’s non-competitive! 🙂

  46. aubry

    July 8th, 2011 at 11:59 pm

    oh my heck, i was totally nodding my way through this post. i’m so dang competitive for my own good that my hubby refuses to play any game with me. yet when on the same team we are a force to be reckoned with. ha! 🙂 love everything about this post!

  47. Cara

    July 9th, 2011 at 1:50 am

    Hey, I flipped out over a game of Uno. UNO. Maybe I’m the one that needs therapy…

  48. kms

    July 9th, 2011 at 3:14 am

    ha! too funny! my husband and i are the same. we learned ‘cooperation’ by playing taboo (the most hilarious game ever) on the SAME team. give it a shot! 🙂

  49. LEOLAK

    July 9th, 2011 at 4:09 am

    Hilarious! Maybe you guys can try this game called Apples to Apples? I just found out about it and loved it…then again I don’t have to keep score w/ anyone…soooo not sure how this will help. lol So agree on the unrequested newsletter deal…so annoying. Happy Friday and weekend!

  50. Anna Lyndon

    July 9th, 2011 at 10:07 am

    I’ve got a solution for you – the board game Pandemic! It’s a cooperative board game you play together – you all win or lose together. MARRIAGE SAVER! Take it from two very competitive people…

  51. brianna

    July 9th, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    Midnight in Paris… my idea. Just want to point out how cultured and refined I am when it comes to my movie choices.

  52. julie

    July 9th, 2011 at 5:14 pm

    I agree with everything except the Woody Allen movie. I can’t support a movie made by a man who dumped his wife for his adopted daughter. Yuck!

  53. Stephanie

    July 9th, 2011 at 6:38 pm

    Cinnamon Toast Crunch is the BEST!!

  54. briana Moore

    July 9th, 2011 at 7:34 pm

    Midnight in Paris was my favorite film of the year thus far. So enchanting. James and I actually LOVE to play games together, but I may threaten him from time to time. 🙂 Try Settlers 😉

  55. dontsmilenow

    July 10th, 2011 at 12:43 am

    I’ve been known to close the backgammon folds in half and ends a losing game swiftly!

  56. Paulette

    July 10th, 2011 at 3:16 am

    I’m dying to show this post to my husband, bc I HATE games; not because I’m competetive, but bc I’m decidedly not. (He is, however, and craves any game, any time.)
    And Midnight in Paris was amazing! I immediately started reading "My Life in France" by Julia Childs when I got home, bc it was the only "French" thing in my house. 🙂

  57. Chicago Wedding Photography Studio Finch

    July 10th, 2011 at 9:58 pm

    LOL you crack me up Jasmine! There is something about board games that can get people fired up 😉

  58. Victor - Seattle Wedding Photographer

    July 11th, 2011 at 4:19 am

    I totally agree about competitiveness ruining a marriage! It’s great to hear that caught it on time and focused on better stuff in life! Love organic oranges! FTW!

  59. Christy Hermogenes

    July 13th, 2011 at 6:07 am

    My husband & I are the same way with miniature golf, we have a running tally, & we can’t even talk about it anymore without the "I’m the King of mini golf!" coming out to play.

  60. moraima

    July 13th, 2011 at 9:58 pm

    well, let me tell you that you are definitely not alone. My husband and I are just like that, we CANNOT play on opposites teams anything ever. And we discovered that as soon as our honeymoon, when we tried to play ping pong. BUT…Halo? you can totally play for the same side and it’s AWESOME, so please please tell JD to get the Xbox and after Halo you have to play Gears of War… my super fave! 😀

  61. jenn {bow tie & bustle}

    July 14th, 2011 at 8:24 pm

    oh my gosh i couldn’t agree with you more when it comes to games!! i found my blood pressure rising just reading your post! my husband and i can’t play games either cause i end up throwing a temper tantrum when i lose! loved this post jasmine!

  62. Robbie

    July 18th, 2011 at 5:21 am

    My dh and I can’t play games together. Ever. It gets ugly. He has resorted, in an effort to show his dominance (which is always his goal when we play games together), to posing as one of my kids on Togetherville (Facebook for kids) to ‘dare’ me at games. Pathetic I say! LOL