Top 5 Business Mistakes I’ve Made


It’s definitely ridiculous, but it’s my favorite question. What’s your biggest mistake and what did you learn from it? I ask it all the time. Which makes me either consistent or unoriginal. I prefer the former, thankyouverymuch. But here’s the crazy thing…I never asked myself that question. Part of why I ask this question is because I learn more from what you did wrong, than what you’re doing right. Don’t ask me why, that’s just how I roll.

So, if you’re anything like me, I thought I’d put together a Top Five List of Things I’ve Done Wrong in My Business in case you can learn from my mistakes and not repeat them…
5. I didn’t ask questions.
When I first started, I was afraid to let peers know I didn’t know what I was doing. When I’d go to workshops and the instructor would say something I didn’t understand, I just sat there and nodded my head. If I was second shooting and the lead photographer asked for something I didn’t know how to do, I tried to make it work in spite of my unknowingness. This is tragic. I could’ve learned so much more, grown faster, and softened my learning curve had I just had the cajones to admit I didn’t know. If I could do everything again, I’d ask every question I could…even if it made me feel stupid.

4. I waited too long to get a website.
I know this goes without saying–probably because I say it all the time–but I can’t stress it enough. When I got a website, it legitimized my business and allowed me to further define my web presence. Clients took me seriously, coordinators/planners sent clients my way in light of a complete and focused online portfolio, and it became easier to warrant a new level of professionalism, which, in turn, allowed me to garnish a new type of client.

3. I let others dictate how I felt about my work.
Needless to say, this happens a lot in the industry. Sometimes business owners will talk so certainly about WHAT they have, WHERE they’re going, WHO they’re with, HOW many weddings they booked…and so forth. And though it might be unintentional, they made me feel less worthy to pursue my dream of becoming a photographer, and my work. They had that camera, so clearly they take better photos than me. They’re off to that industry mixer with people who air kiss, so clearly they’re cooler than I am and will get jobs as a byproduct of it. They just booked their 764th wedding for the year…and updated their Facebook status to let the world know.
I walked around in a constant state of I Suckiness, and it wasn’t until I tuned out the noise that I was able to define who I was…just plain old Jasmine Star. Once this happened, I was able to embrace my current situation: While I may not have the best camera, or party with the cool kids, or book weddings like a boss…I’m moving forward. And moving is always better than sitting still.

2. I didn’t make long-term equipment purchases.
I’ll never forget it. JD and I stood at the sales counter and we debated the pros and cons of each flash. I wanted to buy the Canon 430EX, but JD insisted I buy the 550EX. Through gritted teeth I reminded him we didn’t have money for it, but he understood the value of spending a little more for a distinct performance difference. I didn’t listen to him and bought the 430. A few months later, I went back and bought the 550EX because the 430EX just wasn’t cutting it for me.
Moral of the story: You get what you pay for. And JD is always right.

1. I didn’t take more risks.
When I think back to when I first started, I can’t help but feel sorry for that girl. The girl who didn’t trust herself enough to take bigger risks. Who didn’t dream big enough. Who limited herself by her own experience and other people’s estimations of what was possible.
If I could go back and tell the Jasmine Star of 2007 something, I’d whisper in her ear: Believe in what you know you can do. Trust your gut. Ignore the naysayers. Dream big, but hope for more. However, knowing myself back then, I would ignore the whisper…so then I’d grab me by the shoulders, give me a good shake, then holler straight in my face, SPRINT TOWARD WHAT YOU WANT AND DON’T EVER LOOK BACK. Ever.

Happy Monday!

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  1. Michelle Guzman

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:04 pm

    Love reading these. I love it when you tell stories of when you were first starting out. So inspiring.

  2. Diandra

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:05 pm

    I love this! I made (and still make) some of those same mistakes. Great help! Thank you!

  3. Anna-Rina

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:05 pm

    This post was really timely Jasmine. It comes at a time when there’s so much ‘exterior noises’ and I just started questioning my own capabilities as a wedding photographer or in your words, a case of "I Suckiness".

    Thanks so much for sharing, its nice to be reminded that at the end of the day, we are doing something we’re head over heels in love with ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Kristen Swanson

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:05 pm

    Thanks for the insight. Last three are me and it’s a constant battle!

  5. Lisa Tilley-Newman

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:06 pm

    Thanks for always sharing. I admire you as a photographer and especially as a business person!

  6. Joe Anna

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:06 pm

    Thank you. Your honesty is everything I needed to read this morning ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m trying to so hard to listen to my instincts, make smart purchases and move forward. This was so nice to read. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Jacilyn G

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:07 pm

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I was/am the photographer that did/does all of these things. Just finished Fast Track Photographer and realized where I was/am holding myself back and this helps even more! But I will say that as soon as I started letting go of these "wrong" things my work is 10x better!

  8. Stefanie Ponting

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    Thank you so much for this!! I am just starting out and NEEDED this, it couldn’t have come at a better time! thank you!!

  9. Heidi Walter

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    Thank you for ALL your posts regarding the business side of being a photographer…they have been SO SO helpful!

  10. Akil Bennett

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    this is a great post jasmine and I’m sure a lot of people needed to hear this. hope you’re doing great homie!

  11. Cherisse

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    Well said Jasmine! I am really struggling today with 2nd guessing myself, so this was exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Kate

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    WOW! I think I’m the first to comment. You rock! Thank you so much for this wonderful insight! I will see you at Skip’s Summer School chica!

  13. picture the love

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    thanks for being honest and open Jasmine! some great thoughts here ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. lauren Mitchell

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    THANK YOU ! I needed this. I am constantly getting caught up in own i suckness and I hate it. I compare equipment, number of weddings i book a year etc. And i always fall short. i am just starting out and i need to stop comparing and just worry about myself.

    This post gets a great big WORD !!!!

    saw you at wppi and you rocked it .

  15. Lauren Bauer

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    #3 is perfection. Feeling that way right now. Please add "I’ve maxed out at 60 twitter friends, so I must not be cool" ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks LOL

  16. Miranda Marrs

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:08 pm

    Fantastic post. Very inspiring… and I love lists!!

  17. Jenny Sun

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:09 pm

    what a fabulously honest post ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s reasons like this that make us love you, and are inspired by you ๐Ÿ™‚ xox

  18. Chelsea Patricia

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:09 pm

    It takes alot of both confidence and humility to not only admit mistakes, but all learn from them and help others learn.

    I appreciate that, Jas.

    I think that it is important to note that, even if you (anyone out there) have already made some of these mistakes, you are not lost. You can still pick it up an move forward and count it as a learning experience, challenging yourself to persevere harded and approach things differently.

  19. Julie Hartman Photography

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:09 pm

    Thank you, thank you!!

  20. kristen holly

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:11 pm

    Love it! Rock on, girl! ๐Ÿ™‚

  21. Jolyn @ Nuance Occasions

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:11 pm

    Thank you for sharing Jasmine, I think it’s important for all of us to examine our mistakes and grow from them, and keep moving forward. Thank you!

  22. Riz Crescini

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:11 pm

    I really like what you had to say about list #3: keep moving forward and don’t sit still. Thanks for this reminder, Jasmine. I needed to hear that today.

  23. Kimberly

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:11 pm

    This is exactly what I needed to read after having a small breakdown over the weekend about starting my own business. Thanks for another great post.

  24. Adam Baruh

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:12 pm

    Thanks for sharing!

  25. Juan Alonso

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:12 pm

    Jasmine, that is me in a nutshell, but I keep trudging along becasue I’m stubborn.

  26. bethany schiedel

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:12 pm

    thanks for the reminder Jasmine. so good for a monday morning ๐Ÿ™‚

  27. Janette Smith

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:12 pm

    Love it, thanks for the advice!!!

  28. mika

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:12 pm

    super encouraging…thanks jasmine!

  29. Keri Doolittle Photography

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:12 pm

    LOVE this post, thanks for sharing!!

  30. Jacqueline Midkiff

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:13 pm

    You are so right about it all and thank you for sharing!


  31. Michael Newman

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:13 pm

    Great post as always! Thanks for sharing this great info! And I love the fact that you said, "had I just had the cajones" AWESOME!

  32. Spring

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:14 pm

    Thank you for sharing… I’m totally the same way. I feel like I learn so much more from mistakes rather then trying to follow other peoples success routes.


  33. lacy

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:14 pm

    I see motivational speaker in your future…

  34. MelissaFoscardo

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:14 pm

    I adore this post!! Thank you so much for sharing your mistakes. Truly, I know I learn quicker from what doesn’t work than from what does work esp. from someone else who has been there, done that.

  35. George Lagonikas

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:15 pm

    If we get to where we can look back and say -or even write…- i did this right and this was wrong and this also wrong, we’re doing ok. ๐Ÿ™‚

  36. Sarah

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:15 pm

    thank you for this reminder! I am just starting out and some days feel so discouraged, but I love to take pictures and create beautiful images so I’m going to keep doing that! (Still working on my website! LOL)

  37. Mary Ashford

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:15 pm

    Hola Jasmine,
    Hope you are well.
    We’re dreaming big, hoping for more, whilst taking on life’s learnings along the way – we’re off & out of the blocks, running hard for what may become a marathon, going for what we hope & oh so want to achieve – we won’t look back & thank you for passing on your lessons, which always help & inspire us here in the UK.
    Mary x

  38. Julie Mitchell

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:15 pm

    Thanks for the words of wisdom and encouragement Jasmine!

  39. Kelli Boling

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:16 pm

    Jasmine – I just shot my 2nd wedding this weekend and I’m still on an emotional high. You have no idea how much I needed to hear/read this today! Thank you!!

  40. donna good

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:16 pm

    thanks so much for sharing yourself…

  41. Lisa

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:16 pm

    Thank you for this. I just started out and although I don’t consider myself a professional, I consider myself a photographer. Before every shoot I get knots in my stomach and am afraid my clients are soon going to find out that I have no clue what I’m doing. But then I get home with the images and am happy. I shouldn’t second guess myself. It’s a bad thing to do but now that I know you went through it too, I feel better. I’m going to try and stop doing that from now on so it doesn’t stop me from being the best ME I can be! Thanks J*!

  42. Steffie van den Akker

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:17 pm

    Thank you so much for this article! I am just getting started in the photography business, and the most important thing I need to learn is to have faith in what I can do. You make me feel I am not the only one, that everyone makes mistakes and that it is good sometimes. You are a great inspiration to me!

  43. Tasha Prescott

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:17 pm

    Oddly, my friend and I were just discussing this last night. #3 is my biggest pitfall right now, but he reassured me I was not alone as well as this post. Thanks!

  44. Chantz Hough

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:17 pm

    Jasmine this is why you are so amazing. You’re photos are amazing but what really makes you over the top is you heart to help newbies like me. Thank you so much and again one day we will be teaching together a conferences. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  45. Regina

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:17 pm

    This is just what I needed to hear! You are awesome and such a great inspiration!!! Happy Monday ๐Ÿ™‚

  46. Trent

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:18 pm

    This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. Thanks Jasmine!

  47. Michelle M

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:19 pm

    Love this!!!! Thanks for sharing:)

  48. Matthew Saville

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:19 pm

    GOLD! Asking what people did *WRONG* has got to be one of the best ways to get someone to talk about the ONE thing that made the difference between failure and success. For some reason, when you ask people "what is the biggest tip you have" or "what is the most important thing if I’m starting out as a photographer", …you just sound like you’re fishing for the easy success path. But when you turn it around and ask people what their biggest failure was, or if they could have done one thing sooner what would it have been, THAT is when you sound sophisticated, and therefore you’ll get a much more intelligent response. ๐Ÿ™‚ =Matt=

  49. Rachel Nickel

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:20 pm

    Freakin fantastic. Number 3,2,1 all resonate so much with me right now…. well, they all did. I think sometimes photographers, no matter what their skill level like to act all high and mighty because they think that having a job taking pictures is really awesome and therefore they are allowed to have huge ego’s. I feel the opposite. I do what I do because I love people, and I love art. I feel less intimidated by hearing that you haven’t always been the Jasmine Star who people swoon over and who is teaching workshops in Australia, and making it to the top ten list… It makes me realize you are just another girl chasing her dream, even though you’ve been insecure at times.

  50. Alison Z.

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:20 pm

    Thank you Jasmine! These are really very encouraging to read. Thank you for being honest and for sharing ๐Ÿ™‚

  51. Samantha

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:20 pm

    J~ it always amazes me how open you are to sharing yourself and your experiences. Thank you again. I can especially relate to #3 and #1. I really wish I had a noise reduction filter in my brain sometimes. I am drowning in the ‘constant state of Suckiness’ anytime I hear , look, and read what industry leaders are up to. Uh..and btw you do seem to party with the cool kids! ie. Jnnie Finch ๐Ÿ™‚

  52. Lauren Wakefield

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:20 pm

    Awesome post! As a photographer in the baby stages of starting her own business…advice like this is golden. I hope I can come hear you speak one of these days. Come to Chicago!!!!!!!!!!!

  53. Pam

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:21 pm

    Thank you Jasmine! These posts always help when I am feeling down in the dumps and want to quit. Don’t Quit! Even the successful photographers have been in the dumps before.

  54. Alexandra

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:21 pm

    You’re wonderful, Jasmine. Thanks for this.

  55. Sabrina

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:23 pm

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’ve been trying to be better about asking questions and luckily the photographers I’ve second shot for have been great at asking me if I had any questions! I’m also about to purchase a second camera, to become my primary. Yikes. It’s a little scary. And ShowIt is the bomb. Love them. I was so pumped when I got a website… especially when I now hear people call and say, "I saw your work on your website and love it!"

  56. Mitchi

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:23 pm

    I have always admired your work! Reading this blog, made me realize thatI was not alone with the 5 Business Mistakes!

    Today I live each day, to tune out the naysayers and to believe in myself, to always continue learning, and to take risks. I am dreaming bigger and hoping for more! It’s a lot of work, and I am making it work because I want to be a successful Mitchi!

    Thanks for sharing and being an inspiration.

  57. Leeann Marie

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:24 pm

    I love the tip on tuning out the people who bring you down. So important.

  58. AndreaK

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    This is such a great post! Thank you so much for sharing, I appreciate it more than you know. Thank you, thank you!!

  59. Paula

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    Tears. That’s just about all I can say. Everyone one of these could be said directly to me. Thank you.

  60. Eva Lempert

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    This post was inspiring, thank you for your honesty! I’m a loyal blog reader and have never posted a comment, but this post was just awesome, I had to. ๐Ÿ™‚

  61. Valerie

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    Thank you Jasmine! I went through that same funk and look back and think the same things. Cheers to us for growing in our businesses!

  62. Emily Troutman

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:26 pm

    this is why you’re my favorite ๐Ÿ™‚ I needed to hear all of that today!

  63. courtney

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:27 pm

    thanks so much for sharing this! i so needed this at this point and time in my life. =)

  64. Steff

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:28 pm

    Ha! I was taking today off! Off of everything I had a few minutes so I thought I just bounce over here. It is getting really overwhelming. I have an oppurtunity to attend a workshop that is so far out of my league and I really feel like saying, I am not ready. That is just me not taking a risk and letting fear take over.

  65. Margot

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:29 pm

    Fabulous, not to mention extremely relevant post. I think self awareness and acknowledging your negative actions alongside your positive ones only makes you a better and more knowledgeable vendor. Thank you for sharing!

  66. Laurie Bracewell

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:29 pm

    Thank you for the reminders, Jasmine. You are always an inspiration!

  67. Judie

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:30 pm

    Thank you so much for this Jasmine!!

  68. Rebecca lozer

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:30 pm

    Thank you so much for all your insight and honesty! I thoroughly enjoy and learn from your blog all the time! This particular one could not have come at a better time and I thank you for it! Your a constant inspiration!

  69. Jessica @ The Budget Savvy Bride

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:33 pm

    this is fabulous advice!! it’s sad when you are the only thing holding yourself back from greatness. What are we so scared of?!?

  70. oksana j

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:33 pm

    check, check , and check…i am that girl right now.

  71. K

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    Thank you ever so much.

  72. Mindy Melendez

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    THANK YOU for this.. I am going through exactly what you listed and it is so refreshing to see that I am not the only one who has been there! =)

  73. Patrice

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:37 pm

    Thanks Jasmine. This really helped me. Almost everything you have here I either thought or did or am doing. Thank you so much.

  74. Matthew R Photo

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:39 pm

    Yep, I’ve made all of these mistakes. Still making a couple of them actually : )… It’s inspiring to know that even the top photographers have had the same problems.

  75. Danielle Vennard

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:40 pm

    Thank you for being so honest with your fans and yourself. It is refreshing to hear about the mistakes and appreciated by all when others are able to learn from them. "plain old Jasmine Star" -pfft!, hardly. You are a role model for all the hard working women in this industry! Thank you always for your time.

  76. Jen

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:41 pm

    Thanks. I needed that….and I’ll probably keep coming back to remind myself. ๐Ÿ™‚

  77. whitney elizabeth

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:41 pm

    LOVE this post Jasmine! ๐Ÿ™‚

  78. Joy

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:42 pm

    You are an amazing spirit! Thank you, thank you, thank you for this post!

    I will sprint toward what I want and won’t ever look back — EVER!

  79. Stacy Cross

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:42 pm

    Great thoughts, Jasmine. Although I think my list would be a mile long. ๐Ÿ™‚

  80. Suzaidee

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:43 pm

    Thanks Jasmine for sharing this with us….Simple, yet very informative ๐Ÿ™‚

  81. vinita

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:44 pm

    Thank you for this post!

  82. Elisabeth Carol

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:44 pm

    This blog post is why you are just so awesome Jasmine!

  83. Christa

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:44 pm

    What a great post…I’ve already been telling myself some of these things to force myself to move forward! Thanks for the reminder ๐Ÿ™‚

  84. Meg White

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:49 pm

    love it. thank you.

  85. Angie

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:51 pm

    Amen! I just took myself by the shoulders and gave myself a good shake. You are 100% awesome, thank you for keeping it real.

  86. Bernadette U

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:54 pm

    Have I mentioned that I dig you? Because I do. ๐Ÿ™‚ Truly, thank you. I am ever-so-guilty of #3 and 1, and definitely hope to turn some of that around. The "I Suckiness" seriously cracked me up! GUILTY!

  87. Angel Canary

    June 14th, 2010 at 7:59 pm

    Okay, you know I’m not an emotional teary eyed girl but dang it this made me tear up. I was talking to Steven about this yesterday about how much I’ve learned and grew, and how much I hit the ground face first, and have had to get back up. Thank you for letting, me, and everyone know we aren’t alone ๐Ÿ˜‰ oxoox

  88. Kim

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:02 pm

    Ok, I have never commented on a blog. Ever. Because I never feel like I have anything cool to say, but that post, at this point in my life and career was so neccessary! Thank you SO MUCH for the uplift!

  89. Tom Li

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:04 pm

    Great post! Very helpful for us beginners!

  90. Brandy Frank

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:04 pm

    Jasmine, thanks so much for this post. You remind me every day that I’m not alone in feeling the way I do sometimes. You are an amazing blessing to this industry. xoxo Brandy

  91. Suzzanne Dockendorf

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:06 pm

    Thank you for sharing this.

  92. Vanessa Del Pino

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:06 pm

    Thank you for your tips, they always help ๐Ÿ˜‰

  93. Melissa Blue

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:09 pm


  94. Melissa

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:11 pm

    Thank you for this Jasmine – it’s nice to be reminded that we will make mistakes in our businesses, but we need to keep on keeping on!

  95. dawn beirnes

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:12 pm

    God Bless you for this post! I am having such a hard time with being confident to make mistakes so I can learn (and be ok with it), feeling not good enough, and feeling like my dream of photography will never happen…and then this post! Wow. Did I just feel a kick in my butt???? I think I just did!!!

  96. Sharon Beadnell

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:14 pm

    I didn’t realize you have taken a seat inside my brain and have been taking notes. This weekend, I decided that I should put my cameras down and start scrapbooking for only my daughter to see. I was profoundly unhappy with my work. I know that I am sooooo very far away from being a professional and I’m ok with that. I don’t mind working and learning, but I get so intimidated after talking with professionals in the industry.

    Thanks for pulling my covers. I think I’ll get the camera back out tonight and see what else I can learn.

  97. terri z

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    they always say no question is silly-
    then how come it is so hard to ask them …… ๐Ÿ˜‰

  98. Ana Telma

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    OMG, you always make me cry… Your posts are always so inspiring… We always hava a LOT to learn from you. Thank you so much for sharing with us.
    I believe I CAN too, but I always bump into all of these things you said. Other people letting us know how good they are (and we are not), wrong purchases, fear of letting others know i’m just a begginner… It’s like reading myself posting from the future… lol (I HOPE SO!!)
    Love you and your job today and ALWAYS!!

    OH! And the comments… we learn a lot from them too!!

  99. Bernadette

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    Great list. I have a lot to learn in this industry as well. I hope to work and learn from you. Thanks for posting.

  100. Ashley Daniell

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    Awesome post. Thank you so much for always being so open and honest! I learn so much from you!

  101. Sarah Maizland

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    Thank you SO much for posting this. I teared up reading it becuase I feel like I am that "Jasmine of 2007". So encouraging and helpful. So thank you!

  102. Kelli Taylor

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    #3 is hard for me! Esp with FB and blogs, hard not to compare yourself and either get down about how you’re not as good or get too confident and cocky about how you’re better! Gotta keep myself in check! ๐Ÿ™‚

  103. Mireille

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:20 pm

    When I look at all the competition out there trying to get favored by a client I sometimes get really down. What should I do? How will they choose me? Then I read your post and you say: take more risks, dream bigger, believe in what you can do, trust your instinct. And then I think, you know what this girl is so right! Thank you Jasmine. Thank you.

  104. Jeanette Sanchez

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:22 pm

    Such a helpful post to us all, thanks Jasmine!

  105. Elsie

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:24 pm

    Great post! I’m guilty of #3…I need to shake myself like you described in #1! lol

    Thank you! =)

  106. mike Larson

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    Great advice, love to see you being bold about this on your blog.

  107. Nicole H.

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    Jasmine thank you so much for posting this!!! I’ve struggled with several of the points, and it makes me feel great to know I’m not the only one!

  108. Tira J

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:28 pm

    Thanks Jasmine!

  109. Ashley Madsen

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:31 pm

    Even though I loved reading all of these… #3 is the kicker for me. Man I need to get over this hump.

  110. Kara Wieler

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:32 pm

    Thanks for this post! So good to hear even the best make mistakes!

  111. Stephanie Stewart

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:35 pm

    This is exactly what I needed to hear/read this Monday!!! I am and have been guilty on all counts of your top 5 list…and I’m working on changing that! Thank you so much for this post…so very much!

  112. barbara smith

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:36 pm

    needed to hear this. right now. THANK YOU.

  113. Melissa Murphy

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:39 pm

    So inspiring!!! I am at that point right now where you were in 2007. I need that push, shove, hip check, whatever you want to call it, but I need it and this helps A LOT!!!!

  114. Danielle Nielsen

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:40 pm

    thank you.
    I wish I had read # 1 months ago. Right before I was so consumed with self-doubt I turned down a wedding. Only to find out later that the MAIN reason the bride was so excited about hiring me was because I HADN’T shot a wedding yet. She wanted me for the very reason I said no. Self-doubt will kill me every time. I’m screaming it now and can only imagine what I’ll have wished I could scream in a few years. ๐Ÿ™‚

  115. Jeff Almquist

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:41 pm

    Your absolutely right Jasmine. I can relate to this 100% and it’s sometimes just so frustrating, you want to give up. Then you realize who you are and why you are doing this….and you MOVE ON. I am designing my Showit as we speak and took down my old site. I just have my blog, and it feels weird. But, I love the ability to create and have the control. It’s very exciting! Thank you for your insightful blog posts Jasmine and what your doing for this industry. An inspiration! =)

  116. Kirsten

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:44 pm

    As soon as I saw your Tweet on this post, I jumped right over because this couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. I recently have been defining my own self-worth by what I accomplish compared to you and other greats, who accomplished it in half the time. I’m still working on it. I also just nagged my web designer on the status of my site. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you, Jasmine*

  117. kelly marie

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:45 pm

    You are amazing, thank you!

  118. Rephix Photography

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:46 pm

    true on all 5 point

  119. Amanda

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    It just amazes me every time I read your honestly – so out there for everyone to see and yet it is what makes me like you all that more. You’re not afraid of who you are. Thanks for all the advice! Those of us who are still struggling to be as confident in our work – in who we are as photographers – really appreciate it.

  120. ray

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:50 pm

    this post made my day…staying true to yourself and following your dream is unparalleled

  121. Catie Ronquillo

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:58 pm

    Amen sista! Thank you for always keeping it real and sharing yourself openly and without hesitation ๐Ÿ™‚ Your statements resound with me and it helps to know that you go through these feelings too. Hugs!

  122. Rita Quinn

    June 14th, 2010 at 8:59 pm

    As always, you touch my heart… (and make my eyes tear up). Your words could not have come at a better time for me and my current growing pains. Thank you for the very important reminders that the "I suckyness" shouldn’t rule my path. <3 you!

  123. Nikita Gross

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:01 pm

    Thank You!! That was just what I needed today!

  124. Kelsey Anderson

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:04 pm

    Thank you for this! Great words to remember!

  125. Sissel Byington

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:10 pm

    Gosh gosh gosh. I just love your messages and how timely they are for me. Sometimes its as if you are reading my mind…it’s kind of amazing. It knocks me over. I wish I could give you a big hug

  126. Ashley

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:11 pm

    Troof!!! Yeah that’s totally spelled wrong cuz I can’t write in gangsta (: #3 is my favorite. And it really hit home for me. Thanks for being so honest Jasmine!

  127. Christy Pepper Dawson

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:12 pm

    Wow, thanks for your honestly. You are so rad!

  128. Cai Graham

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:16 pm

    This is JUST what I needed to hear – and the timing was to perfection.

    Thank you !

  129. Meredith

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:20 pm

    This came at just the right time! There is a period after your last wedding when you tell yourself what a great job you did, how much you’ve improved and the client tells you how thrilled they are with the images you’ve presented them … and then after a few weeks when all the weddings have finished for the season and you forget to pick up your camera for a while the quiet nagging starts – you see someone elses work and you think why can’t I be as good as them, why is my work so lack-lustre and then you remember who you are and why you are you, and that is what makes your photography special. Thank you Jasmine for reminding me! And sharing your mistakes so we can all learn ๐Ÿ™‚

  130. kelsy mccartney

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:21 pm

    oh jasmine, your blog posts always inspire me!! they motivate my husband too, i’m pretty sure he just pointed out the last line of biggest mistake you’ve made #2 with a huge cheesy smile on his face… you know, the part where you wrote "and JD is always right." ๐Ÿ™‚ thanks for sharing with us, always!

  131. Damaris Mia

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:21 pm

    Just another reason why you rock. Thank for this. <3

  132. kendra

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:22 pm

    Jasmine thank you so much for posting this!!

  133. Stuart Cooper

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:22 pm

    Such a great post! Coming from someone who’s business I aspire to be like, it’s a real comfort to know that you’ve made the same misatkes as the rest of us (I mean that humbly) and I love the comment about the air kissers – genius!

  134. anjuli paschall

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:25 pm

    YES! i loved this. i am still suffering from my 430 flash and wishing i spent just a little more for the 550. sad. i should buy it today ;).. i might just do that!

  135. Brenda Givens

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:25 pm

    I really appreciate the honesty of this post, it’s refreshing and encourages me to learn from my rookie mistakes rather than flog myself for them. Thanks Jasmine!

  136. cara

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:27 pm

    Gah, I love your openness + honesty! This is one of just a handful of posts that I’ve starred + filed under "inspiration," it’s just fantastic — I’m not in the photography field, but I agree so much with the underlying lessons, which can apply in any field — Thank you so much for sharing! (will probably link/quote you later, if you don’t mind!)

  137. Yanina

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:28 pm

    Thank you for this inspirational post Jasmine! It comes at a perfect time and from time to time I can totally relate to as you put it, the feeling of "I Suckiness". Your willingness to be honest and share your experiences is always so helpful!

  138. gill maheu

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:29 pm

    every word true – a wake up call – thank you !

  139. Derrick

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:32 pm

    Thanks for sharing Jasmine! Great tips! =]

  140. Jackie

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:32 pm

    i can definitely relate to number 1! taking risks is hard but so necessary

  141. Kelly Lane Lusk

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:33 pm

    hahahahaha you said…"like a boss" LOVE IT!

  142. Rina

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:34 pm

    Candid and honest… I can soooo nod at many of the points… U go girl ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

  143. Dana F.

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:37 pm

    Fantastic post Jasmine. I wholly respect your wanting and willingness to share so much of your self, your successes and your mistakes. Your openness is a huge breath of fresh air. And that’s just what you are J. Star… fresh! So screw the naysayers and keep doing your thang, your way! No one rocks it like you do. <3

  144. Glen Mitchell

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:38 pm

    Thank you for sharing and the honesty! For someone just starting out like me, posts like this are GOLD! (also Stuart Cooper I aspire to have a business like yours, so I guess its a chain )

  145. Jessica

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:38 pm

    Thank you for sharing and always being so open and honest with us Jasmine … can’t tell you how many times a week I am inspired by you (at least not without sounding stalker-ish!).

  146. Jess Hodge

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:42 pm

    Thank you. Just… Thank you.

  147. Mikaela

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:42 pm

    Gotta add my sincere thank you here, too, for this very much needed encouragement…so thank you!

  148. Amy

    June 14th, 2010 at 9:54 pm

    i love your honesty ๐Ÿ™‚ just what I needed to hear. You rock!

  149. The Bing

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:04 pm

    It’s like you read my mind. (again)

  150. Kalli

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:06 pm

    THANK YOU. I have been photographing for almost two years, but feel like I am just starting out trying to really make something of myself. With soo many photographers out there, it is easy to think that I can’t do it. I even have people around me who remind me often to be more realistic. That sometimes my goals get too big when I am constantly reading other photographer’s blogs. But I can do it. I will do it. And reading other photographers blogs helps me find the motivation!

  151. Alex Palma

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:10 pm

    Thanks so much for being so honest with us Jasmine, I always look forward to reading your comments…they definitely inspire and keep me going forward.

  152. LEOLAK

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:15 pm

    Wow…this could not have come at a better time! Thank you so much for "shaking" me and reminding me I just need to jump in and go for it!!! Mistakes only makes us stronger and better – when we learn the lesson! You ROCK!!!

  153. Lydia

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:49 pm

    I get stuck on #3 way too often! One thing I try not to do is to look at other photography sites for a few days after a wedding. It’s encouraging to know I’m not the only one who deals with this!

  154. Pol

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:58 pm

    Thank you! I am just starting out, nervous like crazy and doing my first wedding soon. Some days it feels like I am just learning too slow!

  155. Kristin

    June 14th, 2010 at 10:59 pm

    There is literally a tear running down my cheek. Thank you so much for the inspiration. As a new photographer it is always nice to hear that you can make your dream happen. Thanks for being an inspiration.

  156. Kay*

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:00 pm

    As someone who is very slowly starting a small business & constantly doubting myself – thank you for sharing this-particularly #1 but all of them really. And, can I add, this is just as useful for people starting non-photography related businesses – like me.

  157. Kare

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    I needed this. Thank you.

  158. Linda Sherrill

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:10 pm

    Great blog today! Good reminders of what to avoid…thanks for all you do to keep us on the straight and narrow!

  159. Eileen

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:24 pm

    And I just bought the 430..LOL.. I will eventually get the upgrade! Great advice!!!!

  160. s h e r r y

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:34 pm

    Thanks so much, Jas! This is why everyone <3’s you. You’re so honest and awesome!

  161. Naomi Figueroa

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:41 pm

    Ah, Jasmine! You’ve done it again. THANK YOU for baring all and pouring into others to inspire. This post will be marked as a favorite, and I’m going to read it a few more times to get it through my head. Wonderful, inspiring, hopeful.
    Thank you.

  162. Melissa Papaj Photography

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:41 pm

    Jasmine – Thank you for always putting that little piece of you out there! I love it!

  163. Connie

    June 14th, 2010 at 11:49 pm

    Thank you so much for always giving yourself to others and exposing the insecurities that I think we have all had or have. Learning from others is huge and I appreciate your guidance. I am definitely taking more risks than I ever had in my life and I am finding out I can do this!

  164. mariel

    June 15th, 2010 at 12:08 am

    your blog is one of my favorites because you are so generous with your experiences. it’s so refreshing to find someone that is so inspiring, talented and down to earth. thanks for doing what you do. -Mariel

  165. charlie

    June 15th, 2010 at 12:11 am

    oh Jasmine you’ve hit a raw nerve here..this is ssssoooooo me at the moment..especially number 3..thankyou for putting things into perspective ((hugs))

  166. Christina

    June 15th, 2010 at 12:27 am

    This was what I needed…Thank you

  167. Josephine

    June 15th, 2010 at 12:45 am

    …..oh crap, i’m cryin’ again…. being soooo new I am printing this blog out and posting infront of the mirror to keep me reminded, how’s that? I THANK YOU forever and again, Jasmine! xxx

  168. Tisha

    June 15th, 2010 at 1:16 am

    I am just beginning my dream of photography. Wondering aimlessly. Thank you for your words of advise, it is amazing how many facets of life we can all apply what you’ve said. Just one quick question, why is your hand bag in the pics different?

  169. Tamara

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:12 am

    You never cease to amaze me. Your advice is what always keeps me going when I’m feeling down about my business.

  170. Vanessa

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:14 am

    The truth in this post got me all teary eyed. So brilliant and to the point. Having your own website is a HUGE one! I have an Etsy site at the moment but we are currently working on our own .com right now. I know it will help take our business to the next level. Being a part of Etsy has been a big blessing. Etsy is where I started selling my design work. Itโ€™s not often you can start a business with on 20 cents. My design abilities have grown so much in the past few years with education and lots experience. I can relate so much to #5. It may be polite to smile and nod, but itโ€™s not beneficial for growth. Thanks so much for this honest look into your beginnings. I just love your blog! ~Vanessa ๐Ÿ™‚

  171. Therese Dozier

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:14 am

    *Tear* this speaks to my soul, thanks for sharing Jasmine.

  172. Kristin

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:15 am

    Thank you for giving me hope.

  173. Jami

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:42 am

    Ummmm, I pretty much just love you. The End. ๐Ÿ™‚

  174. Joy Barker

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:44 am

    Great post! I particularly like #3 cause I am pretty sure I am living it now. I constantly get anxiety over comparing my work and business to other photographers. I hesitate and wonder how bad I really want to do photography. Maybe I don’t really want to do it, or maybe it is just the fear of failure that makes me not fully dive in. I love hearing about your journey though. Your always inspirational and I love the positive influence you are in the industry ๐Ÿ™‚

  175. Jami

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:45 am

    Ummmm, I pretty much love you. The End. ๐Ÿ™‚

  176. Simply Natural Photography

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:09 am

    Wow thanks bunches for sharing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  177. Kate Whitmore

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:10 am

    This may be more inspiring than you will ever know. Thanks.

  178. laetitia

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:18 am

    173 comments in one day… I am very impressed by the number of people who might read your blog (I am one of them of course) and leave a message!
    Is there is other french readers? (hahaha)

    The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
    Elbert Hubbard (1856 – 1915)

    Experience is that marvelous thing that enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
    Franklin P. Jones

    A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
    George Bernard Shaw (1856 – 1950)
    Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes.
    Oscar Wilde (1854 – 1900)

  179. Karina Bravo

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:25 am

    Can I get a hallelujah! Thanks for being so real and selfless. Thats why you are my "mentor"!

  180. Heather White

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:25 am

    Aloha Jasmine! You so totally ROCK and I love your incredible style and sense of humor!

    1. My dumb question is…what does Jasmine use to put her photographs on this blog page with her watermark/name at the bottom? Is it a certain program? Thankyouverymuch!

    2. Not until I launched my site last fall did I feel like I could call myself a photographer! Totally agree!

    3. I live in Kauai in a bit of a bubble so I try not to let #3 affect me. I am just plain old, quirky Heather White!

    4. Just bought my 2nd 550ex where my husband said, "But you already have one?" I am very happy with my very professional equipment!

    5. I just shot my first wedding two weeks ago! Who-hoo!

    Thank you so much Jasmine for sharing!

  181. Karen Taggart

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:31 am

    I’m choking up. Thanks for the great message! I suffer from "I suckiness" all the time! ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ve wanted to start a photo biz for about 10 years but always had a reason why I couldn’t. But now I’m pushing forward and at least trying. Otherwise I’ll always wonder "what if" when instead I’ll hopefully wonder "why did I wait so long"!

  182. Amber

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:36 am

    Posts like these are incredibly helpful! Thank you for letting us in.

  183. Ashley Rath

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:48 am

    I must say I’ve only recently discovered your blog, but I find it to be very inspirational to me as I start my event planning business. Thanks for sharing your soul on the web! It’s appreciated!

  184. Kylie Bone

    June 15th, 2010 at 4:29 am

    Thank you Jasmine. You are honest, beautiful and a true inspiration to anyone in the industry.

    I’m new to photography so reading your fears was like finally admiting mine, especially the "Oh I don’t have that camera, or I didn’t book 3 newborns this week facebook updates" This made me question my dreams so much that I rarely put my website address up for fear I might get some form of response from those who are just good at saying and not so good at doing (wow that’s a big thing for me to say – I feel like I just lifted a massive weight off me)

    So thank you, thank you for being amazing at what you do, for being so open and friendly, for sharing your skills and talent and for being an inspiration in not just your photography but also in the way you live your life. Thankyou

  185. allan z.

    June 15th, 2010 at 4:44 am

    LOVE THIS!!!!!

  186. Min

    June 15th, 2010 at 4:44 am

    Hi Jasmine…first of all I love your blog very very much, 2nd…cried while reading this especially #3! You are my greatest inspiration!

  187. Julie Pham

    June 15th, 2010 at 4:53 am

    I have been a fan of yours (and JD and Polo!) for so long and I wanted to thank you for being so inspirational! I’ve hesitated to leave a comment in the past since it would get lost in the sea of gazillion comments, but I felt especially moved about your post on "I Suckiness" syndrome. It made me laugh out loud that you put a name to that feeling of self-doubt and insecurity, but your words of understanding and encouragement were truly empowering and for that, I thank you. Your work is absolutely AMAZING and I wish you continued success =)

  188. Laura

    June 15th, 2010 at 5:23 am

    Thank you for writing this post!

  189. Erica rose

    June 15th, 2010 at 6:28 am

    Aannnnd…this is why you’re such a rockstar in this business, you say what others won’t and you’re refreshingly transparent ๐Ÿ™‚

  190. Christine

    June 15th, 2010 at 6:40 am

    reason number 2,349,594 why i heart you. i’m the same: a "learn from your mistakes" kinda gal… and i loved reading about yours. especially the one about JD always being right: clinton is always right in my eyes too! ๐Ÿ™‚ zing! xoxo

  191. Denise Conrad

    June 15th, 2010 at 6:54 am

    I have just recently made the decision to shut out the noise… and trust my gut. So far, the best business decision I’ve made ๐Ÿ™‚

  192. guen

    June 15th, 2010 at 7:24 am

    thank you for this….i concur with the previous 189 posts! this is why we read your blog. the honest, practical, genuine advice u give. so i won’t go further. thanks for this gift this mon.

  193. James

    June 15th, 2010 at 8:01 am

    Hi Jasmine…

    I try and read your blog as much as I can, very inspirational. I’m sooo glad I managed to catch this one as I feel that I’m that person you talk about in this post!

    Thankyou for posting this

  194. maureen cassidy

    June 15th, 2010 at 8:55 am

    awesome post! as always awesome of you to speak about your faults and your learning curve.
    I was recently thinking that I should do a brief log of every photo session and wedding and write down what I did right or wrong, what worked…what was the total package…
    sometime life becomes a blur, but it is so good to sit down and write about what you have learned.
    You have grown leaps and bounds im sure in a few years!!! congrats!

  195. Annette

    June 15th, 2010 at 9:18 am

    Will you believe it? This post brings tears to my eyes. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s the raw honesty? Maybe it’s because this is what my husband and I who are about to take a big leap as well and this speaks to our hearts. No matter the reason, I thank you, Jasmine. Thank you, very, very much.

  196. Maria Noble

    June 15th, 2010 at 9:50 am

    Thanks for sharing this. Not a lot of successful photographers like to share or admit they didn’t know everything when they started.

  197. Jenny Photography

    June 15th, 2010 at 9:51 am

    Helpful. I’ll be sure to learn from your mistakes. You’re a star Jasmine!

  198. Jason

    June 15th, 2010 at 11:53 am

    I kinda wanna print this out and tape it to my wall… fer realz! Crazy inspirational!

  199. Jennifer O.

    June 15th, 2010 at 12:07 pm

    This post is inspiring and not only for those in the photography business. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  200. Darlene

    June 15th, 2010 at 12:50 pm

    FABULOUS post Jasmine. I can see in my second year of wedding photography that I too made and am still making some of those same mistakes. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one AND it points me more toward the right direction too. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  201. Helen Walsh

    June 15th, 2010 at 1:08 pm

    I’ve been stalling on buliding my website and "making do" with a really poor blog! My focus has now changed, I’m off to start building my site! Thanks for all your sharing.

  202. Alison

    June 15th, 2010 at 2:22 pm

    I so appreciate your honesty and willingness to put yourself out there for others to learn from. #3 has been a big one for me, like many. I started a group for area photographers where we can not compete, where we can enjoy each other, ask questions, put a voice to these things and have some fun. It has helped me feel more solid in who I am as a photographer because we may "do" the same thing but we are all so different! Number 2 just cracks me up because that is me and my hubby right now in the same rolls as I build my business with cash. Consider that advice taken!

  203. Jen

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:43 pm

    Thanks so much for this post!! I read it and almost thought you got into my brain!

  204. life with kaishon

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:43 pm

    Thank you so much for this. I learned a lot. A lot, a lot, a lot.

  205. Sean Low

    June 15th, 2010 at 3:58 pm

    This is amazing Jasmine. Incredibly valuable advice. My favorite is the first one mostly because I am on the other side. I love talking about business. I literally dream about it almost every night. It makes me so sad (and frustrated) to hear that someone was too (you fill in the blank) to ask me a question. Thank you for all that you are doing. I am a huge fan.

  206. gladys jem

    June 15th, 2010 at 5:36 pm

    thanks for posting this jasmine! we all appreciate it! all i know is that i need to shake me real hard right now. thank you for not holding back! xo

  207. Regina

    June 15th, 2010 at 5:49 pm

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

  208. Denver Wedding Photographer, JasonG

    June 15th, 2010 at 7:13 pm

    Great post Jasmine… I love item number 4. You definitely get what you pay for. (and I’m taking item 5 to heart!)

  209. Schantel

    June 15th, 2010 at 7:22 pm

    Thank you Jasmine! So glad to know you also experienced these things. You inspire me!

  210. Mark

    June 15th, 2010 at 7:47 pm

    Amen, Amen, thanks for speaking to me…..

  211. Carrie Owens

    June 15th, 2010 at 8:06 pm

    THANK you for this. #1 especially struck a chord with me, thank you.

  212. Ria Mishaal

    June 15th, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    Great advice but also love the openness you promote. Thank you Jasmine!

  213. Harmony Loves

    June 15th, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    Jasmine, I sat at your workshop a little over a year ago and I didn’t ask questions. I had only been shooting for a little over a month and I was too scared and nervous to say anything or ask anything. I wish I had and I want to take your workshop again just so I can have a do over and ask questions. This is my biggest regret.

  214. Lindsay P

    June 15th, 2010 at 8:42 pm

    Thank you thank you for being so open and posting this!! I’m still struggling with with a few of these and I really appreciate knowing it happened to you too! Thanks for sharing.

  215. Hannah

    June 15th, 2010 at 9:41 pm

    Inspiring to say the least!! Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ™‚ Moving forward, rawr! ๐Ÿ˜€

  216. Nicole Glenn

    June 15th, 2010 at 10:03 pm

    Ugh, so guilty of all of these. I think I struggle the most with #3 and #1. Thanks for always keeping it real. ๐Ÿ™‚

  217. Waiman

    June 15th, 2010 at 10:17 pm

    Awesome Jasmine, great post and as I read it I could identify with many of your points and I think you hit the nail on the head for many people!

  218. Amy Paulson

    June 15th, 2010 at 10:18 pm

    Thank you just doesn’t seem like enough…

  219. Lloryn

    June 15th, 2010 at 10:41 pm

    This was an Awesome post. VERY VERY helpful for me

  220. Juli L.

    June 15th, 2010 at 11:22 pm

    Great post! You could possibly be reading my mind…these are all the things I walk around thinking, saying and feeling…thank you for sharing that you felt this way in the beginning. I need to print this post and read it every day!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  221. John B.

    June 16th, 2010 at 12:12 am

    Yep, you can’t be afraid. Fail forward again and again and one day you’ll find yourself at your goal.

  222. harrison

    June 16th, 2010 at 12:35 am

    great post!! thanks for sharing!

  223. sharon snow

    June 16th, 2010 at 12:40 am

    WoW! Thank you, SO much. This post speaks volumes to me and louder than any of your previous posts. Ever. I hear what you are saying, and I know that girl so well. She may not be able to jump all over the advice like she wants to right now, but believe me ‘I’ hear you loud and clear…and I’m REALLY listening now. I needed this and am printing it and taping it next to my bed. Truly your best post ever for me. Thank You Jasmine.

  224. Brit

    June 16th, 2010 at 4:34 am

    Great words of advice. It’s great to see other vendors sharing their learning experiences – it really helps the industry to grow, and I appreciate you for sharing!

  225. Jan

    June 16th, 2010 at 6:10 am

    Thanks for sharing Jasmine!!!

  226. dorelies

    June 16th, 2010 at 8:25 am

    Always love your little storys – they make me feel stronger as I think, well I can get it too – just try! Thank’s

  227. dorelies

    June 16th, 2010 at 8:25 am

    Always love your little storys – they make me feel stronger as I think, well I can get it too – just try! Thank’s

  228. Jen

    June 16th, 2010 at 2:01 pm

    Thanks Jasmine. As always…you are amazing and this is one of my all time favorite posts. Thank you for being you. ๐Ÿ™‚

  229. candi leonard

    June 16th, 2010 at 5:07 pm

    thank you for this…especially number 3! I think we all get stuck in that trap!

  230. amanda thiessen

    June 16th, 2010 at 6:30 pm

    these are my favorite posts. so unveiled and helpful!!

  231. Eddie M.

    June 16th, 2010 at 6:51 pm

    Thank you very. It’s almost as if this message was personally to me.

  232. Kari Dawson

    June 16th, 2010 at 7:35 pm

    Ugh! You just totally made me cry! So many of us, myself included, struggle with the value of our work and wait for others in the industry to let us know ‘when we’ve arrived’. I just shot a fabulous wedding in South Carolina and I got to a point this past weekend where I realized I’ve grown A LOT and I’m uber proud of the product I’ll be delivering in two weeks and I no longer need anyone elses approval! You’re such an inspiration J*! p.s. my hubs was my assistant, he didn’t shoot, but it totally rocked not having to carry all my own crap and I could tell him I need this on this and grab it 30 seconds later and not miss a thing. So rocked!

  233. Otto Rascon

    June 16th, 2010 at 10:27 pm

    I love how you named that funk-state I find myself in every now and then: "state of I Suckiness." I am glad there is an official name for it now. You rock!

  234. Erin Hernandez-Reisner

    June 16th, 2010 at 11:50 pm

    Ok Jasmine,
    That is pretty Cool!

  235. Lyndsay London

    June 17th, 2010 at 3:50 am

    Jasmine, thank you for helping me to make a little more sense of this crazy photography world and well, life. Your posts help me get over any moments "I suckiness" right quick. Such a gift you have :).

  236. Anna Arzamastseva

    June 17th, 2010 at 8:33 am

    You are the BEST!
    Thank you very much for your words and your sincerity!
    I love you!

  237. Truc

    June 17th, 2010 at 12:47 pm

    Jasmine, I love asking this question too. Loved reading your answers. Thank you for sharing.

  238. Kelly Langner Sauer

    June 17th, 2010 at 5:20 pm

    Thanks for giving me the courage to ask that question of myself. I needed it. My answer is here:

    Just thought you might appreciate it. I rarely comment here, but I love your work and your heart. You’re so cool!

  239. Karen Stott

    June 17th, 2010 at 10:49 pm

    SO inspiring…i’ve totally been that girl that lets other people’s accomplishments get me down. Thanks for helping me learn to look inward.

  240. Michael

    June 17th, 2010 at 11:24 pm

    My biggest regret is also waiting so long to get a web presence, now I have to work twice as hard to keep up.

  241. brittani

    June 18th, 2010 at 1:59 am

    :/ i’m bookmarking this post.

    you rock. thanks, because i bet you anything no one realizes these are their own mistakes until they see them.
    Like me. Now. =)

  242. Cara Justus

    June 18th, 2010 at 2:22 am

    Thank you so much for this- especially the last one. I have been walking around in the same "I suckiness" state for a while now! You never cease to amaze me or encourage me! ๐Ÿ™‚

  243. fiona andersen

    June 18th, 2010 at 9:58 am

    Amen sister!! xx

  244. Sarah Ciccone

    June 19th, 2010 at 1:44 am

    Thanks soooo much Jasmine for another Awesome post!! You always say the right things at the right time it seems ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the encouragement!!

  245. Yasha

    June 19th, 2010 at 4:14 am

    Jasmine, I love you! You are so real and down to earth. Thank you for shareing these 5 points. I relate to EVERY single one of them. I kept re-reading lines saying to myself – did she just say that – wait did I write this – or did she? Your so cool. Maybe someday I will meet you. I’ve been putting in my blackberry every Friday before a wedding "READ JASMINE STAR BLOG." It helps me get in the groove of being myself for Saturday. Do you read these blogs yourself or do you have personal secrataries..? Oh well maybe no one reads them? I mean 244 comments.. pleazzzz. (:

  246. Apple

    June 19th, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    thanks jasmine! i’ll keep all this in mind! you’re the best!!!<3

  247. Apple

    June 19th, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    thanks jasmine! i’ll keep all this in mind! you’re the best!!!<3

  248. Nova Scotia Photographer

    June 21st, 2010 at 12:40 am

    I’m in a funk right now and this post hit home on so many levels – just what I needed. You’re a pretty cool chick.

  249. feuza

    June 21st, 2010 at 1:17 am

    thanks for sharing, you made it so quickly and inspire so many~
    thanks J*

  250. karen massey

    June 21st, 2010 at 8:39 pm

    How very true, Im seeing myself staring back in your comments.

  251. chris at undfind

    June 22nd, 2010 at 12:21 am

    I agree with every single one of these and I think I made the exact same ones! (plus a million other ones, but we all live and learn right?)

    Again, thanks for sharing

  252. tiffany zajas

    June 22nd, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    Oooh, I was really convicted by #4. I really struggle with that a lot too. I don’t know why it’s so hard to NOT compare myself to others…with the world of blogs, Twitter, and Facebook it’s so easy to get caught up with how awesome everyone else is and what they’re up to rather than focusing on just being me. Thanks for the encouragement! ๐Ÿ™‚

  253. Bobbie Brown

    June 22nd, 2010 at 7:18 pm

    Jasmine, I love this post and I love you! Seriously, this one hit home with me, several things you said in here… Thank you!

  254. A Person Who Needed to Hear this

    July 14th, 2010 at 7:36 am

    I am in the middle of mirroring a wedding photographer. I am learning so much it isn’t even funny. But the person is very technically skilled. I think even though I am learning so much, I keep thinking that "I am not good enough, I am constantly doubting myself. I am not ready yet"

    I have had people at weddings ask me how much I would charge to do their weddings. I response with "Oh I can’t" Why?! Why can’t I?! Just because I don’t have fifty million pieces of equipment and a degree in photography doesn’t mean I can’t produce something great for someone. Why can this person see my value and I can’t?! Because I feel less than in this industry at times. While photography is HUGELY about the final product at the end of the wedding – it is also the experience the couple is having with you. I refuse to walk around in a constant state of I Suckiness anymore. It might be the toughest year of my life – diving in deep. But you have very much inspired me! Nothing like a little pressure to make you GROW, GROW, GROW!

    I refuse to allow #3 on your list to hold ME back anymore. Thank you!!!!!

  255. Alicia Jones

    August 27th, 2010 at 6:16 pm

    Thank you so much for posting this. I have felt all 5 of those things. I always feel like I’m taking two steps forward and one step back, everytime I think I’m really improving I find one other way I’m just not good enough and this has really inspired me to just take chances and just keep going!

  256. London People Photographer

    December 22nd, 2010 at 11:14 pm

    This post was rated one of the best of 2010. I just read it for the second time and I love it. Love you too Jasmine.

  257. Jin

    January 5th, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    At the end of the day Jasmine the big risks which are always the toughest pave the road for change and ultimately reward. Don’t forget you took the biggest one of all dropping out of school and pursuing a dream you felt right in your gut! It’s great how reflective you are which helps so much in really learning from our mistakes. What up JD! Happy New Year guys…from a new reader ๐Ÿ˜‰

  258. Camille Neighbors

    January 6th, 2011 at 1:14 am

    #1 made me cry… Like.A.Baby. Thank you Jasmine. I think I’ll go say that right now to the "2011 Me"… Really. She needs to hear it!

  259. Jessica Noelle Rozof

    January 6th, 2011 at 5:58 am

    Just what I needed thanks you!

    ps. I swear I will meet you someday!

  260. Carlos Thomas

    February 1st, 2011 at 6:34 pm

    Didn’t take more risks,

    That’s the theme of 2011 for me and a group of photogs I’ve organized a group for. Getting outside of your comfort zone is the number one hurdle in this business. Get OUT there! Right?

  261. Andrew

    February 1st, 2011 at 7:37 pm

    Great post, very informative!

  262. Heidi

    February 2nd, 2011 at 3:51 am

    I am printing this and immediately posting to my fridge! Thank you for the inspiring words (:

  263. Laura Rhoades

    February 4th, 2011 at 12:36 pm

    I’m a little late to this post party, but I’d say these are my top 5 mistake so far as well, ESPECIALLY the not asking questions or taking risks. I tried to learn completely by trial and error and reading online. Could have moved myself forward a year or two faster by just asking people!

  264. Paul Chen

    February 17th, 2011 at 3:43 am

    Hey Jasmine, thanks so much for this post. I totally needed it. You’re awesome!

  265. Spicytee

    February 19th, 2011 at 9:19 am

    I think I’m just gonna use your word gracias… You are the best thing that happened to my photography world lately. Thanks to Goggle for finding you.

  266. William Bay

    February 28th, 2011 at 7:52 am

    #2 is the one that has gotten me, even though I’ve been photographing for 20 years. I always try to get by with what’s at hand.
    But I really should try to invest in quality glass.
    Thanks for the post.

  267. Danica Clark

    March 14th, 2011 at 7:31 am

    Jasmine, I don’t know if you’ll ever see this comment because this post is so old. But I just wanted to let you know how deeply this post has touched me, and HOPE that some day you’ll see this…

    When I saw this post as I scrolled down looking for a specific post of yours, I had a small nagging feeling that I should stop and read the entire thing. So I did.
    I am crying. This post felt like it was truly written to me.
    I’m just starting out my Wedding Photography business and am struggling so much. I’ve spent the last 2 weeks, working hard to try and figure out how to get my business going and why I haven’t been successful, or why I can’t seem to find a clear direction of where I want to go or who I want to be.
    As I read you admit what you struggle with (and I can’t imagine it was that easy to admit your mistakes to the whole world) I see my own self in these.
    You couldn’t have written a letter to me any more clearly than this.

    I struggle so much with all of these. Website, being willing to ask, making the "budget cuts" to cheaper equipment, listening to everyone else and what they say about my work or finding problems with my own work because the "successful photographers are so much better than me", and especially… ESPECIALLY not taking more risks.
    This has touched me so much, first thing tomorrow I’m going to focus on making a clear distinction of what I need to do. I feel that this is helping me figure out the issues as to WHY I haven’t been able to write out a business plan the last 2 weeks.
    I’ve been afraid. Afraid of spending the money, afraid of what other people will say about my work, afraid other people wouldn’t find my work worth the money, and afraid to take the risks.
    Tomorrow I’m going to be brave, step out away from all this fear (now that I have truly identified it) and hopefully never ever get back to this again!!!!

    Thank you so much for helping me see, for once, my own fears. I think I’m truly beginning to understand it now. A lot of it is beginning to make sense.

    Again, I don’t know if you’ll ever see this. But I just wanted to say… Thank you. *hugs* I cannot tell you how much I appreciate that you stood out and admitted your fear so that others of us could too.
    You’re one amazing girl.
    Thank you.

  268. Christiana

    March 18th, 2011 at 12:45 pm

    Hi Jasmine, i should be editing a wedding that is due on monday, i should be tucked up in bed for the bright start wedding i have tomorrow, but i’m reading your blog, just like i have been for the past two weeks and like a book i love i can’t stop. i know i’m reading backwards and that i’m about to get to the middle (i already finished the first one), and i know that you posted this nearly a year ago, but i wanted to say thanks. i have been walking around in a state of i suckiness all day (honestly all week) and i feel ok about it now. its ok to feel like that because even though i feel like that, i’m still not gonna stop trying and that is all that matters. thanks for being my mentor-even though you don’t even know it xx C

  269. canon bey reed

    July 20th, 2011 at 3:43 pm

    great post, love reading the dynamics of your relationship with your husband… hoping one day my [high school basketball coach] husband will pick up a camera!!

  270. jessica vidmar photography

    July 20th, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    It’s amazing how many negative thoughts can go on in your brain without you even realizing it’s what is holding you back. the second I learned to discredit any of the BS those negative voices were trying to convince me of I really started to grow and know I can do this and have a gift. thanks for letting me know I am not the only one who has struggled. the sky is the limit!

  271. Libby

    July 20th, 2011 at 4:09 pm

    I think as creative people we tend to be plagued with insecurity. I know I am! Thank you for this blog. I can’t tell you how much it helps with my confidence!

  272. Abby Grace Photography

    July 20th, 2011 at 4:09 pm

    Thank the Lord for husbands who can see sense better than we do at times. My husband has done the same thing with me- I want to buy a less expensive lens, he asks "will you need to upgrade in the future?" i answer yes, he insists we buy the better one to start out with. I love this post.

  273. Carla Barnett

    July 20th, 2011 at 4:19 pm

    Thank you for posting this! I too learn more from what people did wrong than what they did right. The biggest thing that resonates with me is to take bigger risks and not let others dictate how I feel about my own work. Thanks for being so open and honest on your blog!

  274. Dawn & Michael Mitchell

    July 20th, 2011 at 4:30 pm

    Thanks for sharing!

    Dawn & I need that "take me by the shoulders and shake" once in a while, and the encouragement to go forward. We are thankful that you and JD are around to understand that!

    Thanks to you both!

  275. Rose DeVore

    July 20th, 2011 at 5:03 pm

    Jasmine… I have to say THANK YOU. Last week I felt a turn and i woke up and started reading your blogs. I read them every morning and sometimes twice. What you have posted this week were questions that I needed answers for. You are amazing.

  276. Leslie Star

    July 20th, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    I cannot thank you enough for posting this. It feels as though you were speaking directly to me. Thank you for the advice, it is priceless information for a newbie like me, also a fellow "Star" (for real!)

    -Leslie Star

  277. Kasey Loftin

    July 20th, 2011 at 6:32 pm

    Thanks for sharing. It’s so reassuring to hear brilliant photographers admit they aren’t perfect and that they have gone through the same doubts/fears/hiccups that I have. #3 really spoke to me. I think reassurance helps you get through those days when you second-guess yourself. Sometimes you need that validation that you aren’t chasing an unattainable dream. Although, I just try to remind myself that I believe in my own ability and have to trust it more.

  278. Lydia

    July 20th, 2011 at 6:36 pm

    I’m not sure exactly when you wrote this, but I can’t remember ever reading it before. It’s just what I needed to hear right now though! I need to keep my eyes on my own goal and press on!

  279. Kristin Nicole

    July 20th, 2011 at 7:59 pm

    Such amazing advice! So glad that I have not made some of these mistakes just from reading your blog when I started. Thanks girl.

  280. Kaylee Sizemore

    July 20th, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    2 letters… xo

  281. jenn {bow tie & bustle}

    July 20th, 2011 at 8:10 pm

    jasmine thank you so much for this post. you always seem to say the most amazing things on the days when i most need it. i want you to know that a lot of my business confidence comes directly from watching women like you be themselves and follow their hearts and dreams. thanks for being you and for inspiring me to be me. you are so darn amazing girl!

  282. stephanie

    July 20th, 2011 at 9:02 pm

    Thank you for these words of wisdom. Its rare to come across successful people who would gladly share their secrets ๐Ÿ™‚

  283. Malinda Warder

    July 20th, 2011 at 9:06 pm

    Two words typed through my tears. THANK YOU!

  284. Divina James

    July 20th, 2011 at 9:21 pm

    This is good. And timely. I’m shooting my first wedding in less than a month and shooting my first engagement shoot on Sunday. I’m anxious -excited or nervous, not quite sure which one out-weighs the other! But I’m gonna try to keep it together. Oh and somewhere in the Bible it actually says that a fool makes a mistake and doesnt learn, a smart person learns from their mistakes and a wise person learns from other people’s mistakes. Preach, girl!

  285. Tony Rizzo

    July 20th, 2011 at 9:30 pm

    Jasmine, I’m loving this post! Thanks for sharing a few honest tips and things you have learned along the way. Taking more risks and asking others when you don’t know what in the world your doing. So simple but so hard to do sometimes. Keep it coming!

  286. Iain King

    July 20th, 2011 at 10:41 pm

    Jasmine, Another excellent article. Point number 1 on risks is one in which I have been guilty off in the past. I think once you really start to believe in yourself and start to dream big your business grows much faster. Thanks again for your insights.

  287. Maxine

    July 20th, 2011 at 10:57 pm

    Ok I gotta admit, this post (esp the last couple lines) brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for speaking to my heart exactly what I needed to hear to keep trusting in myself and the Lord.

  288. Natasha

    July 21st, 2011 at 12:11 am

    I can’t tell you how helpful your posts are! The way in which you honestly share your knowledge and experiences is so helpful to a newbie like me. Thank you!

  289. Jodie Cox

    July 21st, 2011 at 1:51 am

    Are you sure you are not speaking directly to me!?!?!? haha! This really resonates with me today – thank you, thank you, thank you. Just what I needed x

  290. Apryl

    July 21st, 2011 at 1:54 am

    I’m making all these mistakes right now. Thank you for posting this and for giving me a big kick in the butt!

  291. Shane Bradley

    July 21st, 2011 at 1:59 am

    Great post Jasmine!! Inspired to hustle… "like a boss" ๐Ÿ™‚

  292. Cathy Brunson

    July 21st, 2011 at 2:20 am

    I’m not sure you can ever understand how much I appreciate this blog post. Thank you Jasmine. Thank you.

  293. Roberto Farren Photography | Boston/London

    July 21st, 2011 at 3:37 am

    really well said and i’m finding out some of those things myself at this very time! some good info for all to learn from. Regards, Roberto

  294. Anel

    July 21st, 2011 at 3:39 am

    Jasmine, THANK you for making us feel human! I have tears in my eye, knowing that with time we become stronger & wiser & people like you that we can learn from! Even if I’ve made several of these mistakes, there is hope that I can still live out my passion with of without making errors! Thank you!

  295. feuza

    July 21st, 2011 at 4:05 am

    I simple adore this jacker blazer you are wearing, I must have it please tell me where you got it and GREAT TIPS!

  296. Jessica Becklenberg

    July 21st, 2011 at 4:18 am

    You always inspire me. You make me realize that I am better than I think I am. Thank you.

  297. Amy Richmond

    July 21st, 2011 at 4:27 am

    This is so great! Thanks for sharing!

  298. Krista Sidhu

    July 21st, 2011 at 5:57 am

    Happy Monday?
    LOL I didn’t realize London went backwards in time. ๐Ÿ˜›

  299. Tamytha Cameron Smith

    July 21st, 2011 at 6:15 am

    Thank you Jasmine… this is JUST what I needed to hear tonight… I am going to print it out and read it when I am feeling unsure of my dream and my abilities. It’s midnight here in Texas and I feel like shouting BRAVO!

  300. Michelle Hebert

    July 21st, 2011 at 6:30 am

    I love how RAW this post is! It’s refreshing to hear how someone as successful as you, struggled with the same issues as me. My biggest struggle is the whole comparsion issue and I am slowly letting go of it. Your words about taking risks is exactly what I need to hear, so thank you!

  301. Minerva

    July 21st, 2011 at 7:48 am

    Hi Jasmine, first of all, I just adore female photographers as I’m used to male ones taking my photos when I was little. ๐Ÿ™‚ And second, what you’ve just mentioned above are all things that are done by many business owners and photographers. What I would emphasize is the asking of questions, I think that’s the most essential thing to be done when you want to learn something or when you want to know about something which you do not understand. ๐Ÿ™‚

  302. Adriana Morett

    July 21st, 2011 at 8:43 am

    I don’t know how many times I have commented on your blog just to thank you, but really: THANK YOU.
    I NEED to get off my I Suckiness. I need to stop defining my photographic self-esteem on how many people comment on my blog posts. Just keep walking my way. THANKS for reminding me this. Love you!

  303. Sharls

    July 21st, 2011 at 9:26 am

    Everything you just said is everything i needed to hear right at this moment! Race towards what you want with child like abandon! I love that, all to often what everyone else says or thinks of me, is what I allow to define me… Not any more x

  304. Jolanta Manka

    July 21st, 2011 at 10:03 am

    Jasmin, great tips – as usual ๐Ÿ˜‰ I think that mistake no 3 is very common, hope I will not repeat it!

  305. Pirihira

    July 21st, 2011 at 10:15 am

    I love that you are so raw with all the information you give out. You are my teacher….. xxxx

  306. Wedding Snapper

    July 21st, 2011 at 12:20 pm

    Well done Jasmine – I bet loads of people need to hear this encouragement. You’re right about trying to tune the noise out and focus on your own thing. If you’re watching and worrying what Mr X is doing, you’re not focussing on your own business, style and goals. Good luck everybody – the hard work and persistence DOES pay off eventually!

  307. Jasmin Ferris

    July 21st, 2011 at 12:21 pm

    You are such an inspiration to all us photographers who are just starting out and trying to make it in this business. It feels like you have written this to me, i have been struggling with all of the above and you have just given me the confidence to get out there and take some risks, not worry about how good other people are And the kind of equipment they have. I need to stop second guessing myself and just do what I do ……….. ROCK it with my lil canon 1000d and 50mm 1.8 until I can afford to upgrade. Thank you!!!!

  308. Brianna

    July 21st, 2011 at 1:43 pm

    This is so inspiring, Jasmine. Thanks for writing this. I’m pretty new at all this, and I’m so very guilty of #3. Thanks for reminding me that "moving is always better than sitting still."

  309. Edy

    July 21st, 2011 at 2:45 pm

    THANK YOU! Its like we’re one in the same.. Been there, done all that, n now you’ve just shook me n screamed in my face lol. Looking forward to catching up to my future. Your an Awesome person to share so much with us Jasmine. Just wanted to let you know You make a Difference ๐Ÿ™‚ xo

  310. Ashley Goodwin

    July 21st, 2011 at 2:59 pm

    I am tearing up at 9:30am this GLORIOUS thursday morning girlfriend. Me? Are you talking to ME? I think you are.

    First off, you aren’t just "plain ol Jasmine Star", we all know that. I am seriously so thankful for YOU, sharing your experience and for encouraging me. The most encouraging words anyone have ever said came from you "Run. Fast. Don’t ever look back. You got this." And you’re right, I do! So even though I may be in a mini slump, it’s okay. Because I’ve got this. ๐Ÿ™‚
    & JD is totally always right.


  311. leslie

    July 21st, 2011 at 3:39 pm

    Thanks for the post Jasmine! It’s sooo important to be be aware of these (especially 1, 3, and 5), whether you’re just starting out or have been at it a while. Thanks for the reminder!

  312. Sea Bass

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  313. Sheri

    July 21st, 2011 at 5:35 pm

    Very, very good advice!

  314. Amber Ellen

    July 21st, 2011 at 6:50 pm

    Thank you so much for this post!! Just what I needed to hear ๐Ÿ™‚

  315. Alyssa Wagner

    July 21st, 2011 at 9:20 pm

    I needed this today. Like you wouldn’t even know. I’m teary now! haha. Thank you!!! Always!

  316. Kare

    July 21st, 2011 at 9:48 pm

    Thank you – I needed this.

  317. Ashley Perez

    July 21st, 2011 at 11:20 pm

    "Moving is always better than sitting still" – love it, Jasmine!

  318. Rachael Shepherd

    July 21st, 2011 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing, Jasmine. #1 and #3 have been on my mind a lot lately. I definitely needed to read this.

  319. Alicia Henry

    July 22nd, 2011 at 1:40 am

    The Lord knows I needed this! My name is written all over it!!!!! Appreciate it!

  320. Michelle

    July 22nd, 2011 at 1:45 am

    You have just highlighted the 5 mistakes I’m doing right now! Time to ‘unmistake’ my mistakes. Thanks Jasmine ๐Ÿ™‚

  321. Kim Tucker

    July 22nd, 2011 at 3:04 am

    Tuning out the noise…I am going to remember this. Posting on my desk…..

  322. Jessica

    July 22nd, 2011 at 4:22 am

    I can’t thank you enough for always putting yourself out there with pure honesty! This was such a helpful post for me to read right now…thank you!

  323. Rory Mole

    July 22nd, 2011 at 7:37 am

    Hi there Jasmine,
    Thank you, thank you , thank you….

  324. Amanda

    July 22nd, 2011 at 7:41 am

    Oh I needed this post tonight. People ask "how long have you been doing this" and I am almost embarrassed to admit…..since the 7th grade yet I am not really any further along than those just starting out, Yes, I have the photographic skill but my business skills suck and between friends telling me I am too expensive and my husband complaining about the cost of the new website (not up yet…) and my kids keeping me from getting to have one complete thought without being interrupted…….. sometimes I feel it will always be a struggle and I will always be the stay at home mom on the verge of having to get a "real" job……in spite of the dream I’ve had more than 1/2 my life.
    Wow, I am spilling the beans huh? Been one of those days.
    Lets start again. I am Amanda and I am a awesome photographer and I will do this. ๐Ÿ™‚

  325. Sally Williams

    July 22nd, 2011 at 2:55 pm

    Hi Jasmine, Thank you for this fantastic blog entry. I have just given up my job to start freelancing full time and even though I know I can do it – there is always a bit of self doubt that lingers around in the background. Looking at what you have achieved and the lessons you have learn’t gives me hope and confidence. I will be printing this out and putting it in my inspriations book! Thank you for sharing x

  326. A Wedding Photographer

    July 22nd, 2011 at 3:47 pm

    ….and now what a wonderful website you have!! Great post!

  327. SaraJane

    July 22nd, 2011 at 4:15 pm

    Please pass the tissue box!

    Thank you Jasmine. I stopped shooting weddings two years ago and found and followed your blog since. Everything you say confirms that I *was* doing the right thing. Thank you, you have been my little "photographer devotion" every week. Thank you for dreaming big you have touched so many lives!

  328. Donald O

    July 22nd, 2011 at 6:48 pm

    Great post. Thank you for the encouraging words.

  329. Jessica K. Sullivan

    July 23rd, 2011 at 12:08 am

    "JD is always right!" Lol! I love this post Jasmine. Such good advice.

  330. Dawney

    July 23rd, 2011 at 9:58 am

    once again, you inspire me. I cannot tell you how thankful I am for you and your willingness to encourage and share. Thank you!!

  331. Brittani

    July 23rd, 2011 at 3:32 pm

    <3 Thank you.

  332. kelsey {las vegas wedding photographer}

    July 23rd, 2011 at 10:21 pm

    Thank you! Great advice!

  333. Julie O'Dell

    July 24th, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    This blog post is very timely for me personally. The last two weeks I’ve been praying about clear direction to take my Photography/ Photography Business to the next level. This is part of the big picture! Thank you!

  334. Jan - Green Tree Photography

    July 24th, 2011 at 10:52 pm

    this is such a fabulous post! I love the "people who air kiss" part. haha!

  335. Susanna

    July 25th, 2011 at 4:13 pm

    Number 1 really resonates. Tears welled up in my eyes when I read it. Thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself.

  336. Lloyed Valenzuela Photography

    July 25th, 2011 at 11:10 pm

    So True!!! I can relate, but im still starting though and im still stucked on some if not all of the mentioned in this blog, but now, you gave me more determination to conquer it all. We all started in the same footing…thanks JS!!!

  337. Amy Rizzuto

    July 26th, 2011 at 5:55 am

    Jasmine you are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing so much of your life.

  338. Rachel

    July 26th, 2011 at 12:32 pm

    Jasmine, I love you! Not in a weird way, but I love you for being so positive, helpful, funny, thoughtful and real. You are so gifted and personable. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and yourself with us! Have an awesome day! God’s love to you, Rachel

  339. Belinda

    July 26th, 2011 at 7:48 pm

    This is actually the SECOND time I’ve read this post!

    Ever since I sat glued to my computer watching your creative live workshop earlier this year you have been such a HUGE inspiration to me.

    Anytime I’m feeling overwhelmed or frustrated I come check out your blog and I always leave with a little more determination.

    Thanks for sharing Jasmine. You’re awesome!

  340. Tina

    July 26th, 2011 at 10:52 pm

    Jasime, I just adore everything about you!! I started my business in 2007 also, but the past year I have felt like giving up what I love. The area I live in is being taken over by amateur photographers so it has made it very difficult to stay focused and in business. A friend of mine from Indy told me about you and I can’t stop looking at your site, you are a true inspiration. I am going to change my website and spend more time marketing myself so I can continue to do what I love. Photography is my heart and soul, so thank you for sharing your stories you are a true inspiration.

  341. Vail Fucci

    July 27th, 2011 at 2:28 am

    Love the like a boss reference!

  342. cassandra-m

    July 27th, 2011 at 5:52 am

    I was overwhelmed reading all the comments, now I don’t feel so alone. Getting discouraged must be something everyone experiences, I never would have thought you did. Thanks for sharing "how" you dealt with it! Thanks for sharing yet another piece of yourself!!! Still think u are the most awesome-est business person! Xooxoxo

  343. Autumn Moore

    July 31st, 2011 at 4:57 pm

    WOW! LOVE that post….way too true! Jasmine you rock!!!

  344. Joy

    December 6th, 2011 at 9:39 pm

    Long time fan/reader, first time poster. This post made me teary eye. Your site is a spirit-lifter and you’re truly an inspiration to me ๐Ÿ˜€

  345. Ashley

    February 1st, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    This post made me cry……..

    In a good way. A very good way.
    Thank You Jasmine. xx

  346. Rocio

    April 28th, 2012 at 4:25 am

    Thank you for these tips!!! I am a new photographer trying to start my own business and these tips will definitely help! You’re awesome!

  347. Tayo

    June 4th, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    You’re such an inspiration! Love your work, your words and your spirit. God bless you.

  348. Natasha

    June 6th, 2012 at 1:12 am

    Ahhhh, I LOVE you’re honesty!!! And your sense of humor ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thank you for putting it all out there, and I am SO purchasing Exposed, I can’t wait to read it, that must have been a ton of work!

  349. Veronica Salazar

    June 6th, 2012 at 8:53 am

    To #’s 1 and 3: AMEN! Preach it, sista!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  350. Holly

    December 31st, 2012 at 11:20 pm

    Wow, this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear!!!

  351. Ed Devereaux

    February 18th, 2013 at 3:35 pm

    That "State of I suckiness" should be my tagline right now. Thanks for letting people know that you felt that way at one time.

  352. Mike

    February 18th, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    So true, tuning out the little I suck and will never make it voice is by and far my most difficult challenge. Thanks for sharing.

  353. Paula

    February 24th, 2013 at 7:37 pm

    Jasmine….thank you for this. <3

  354. bimal nair

    February 27th, 2013 at 10:26 am

    You always amaze me! It was almost God-thought to have your last name as Star…coz you are! ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thanks a billion for everything you are and do! And for sharing yourself so honestly with the rest of world! Thankyou!

  355. Brittany Morgan

    March 22nd, 2013 at 2:49 am

    You. Inspire. Me. I will never begin to describe the incredible influence you have invested in me – A perfect stranger. I am young, and I am green, but you continue to make me feel like I can achieve all that I aspire to become. Thank you. Thank you for not being haughty with your talent but unbelievably helpful through your knowledge!

  356. Jose

    May 20th, 2014 at 10:33 pm

    New to your blog! And I have to say ill be coming back!

  357. Mel

    June 29th, 2014 at 8:19 pm

    When I read your blog I get butterflies of inspiration in my tummy!!! Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ˜‰

  358. Jessica Rogers

    January 29th, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    I wish I had found this blog a year ago! I’ve made so many of these mistakes already. ๐Ÿ™

    I’ve been browsing through all of your blog posts and each one I read inspires me a little bit more to keep going. This one is particularly great because I’m about to take a huge risk in my business. Thank you so much for this!

  359. Charlotte Grace

    February 9th, 2015 at 4:29 am

    Awesome tips thanks Jasmine! Your ability to inspire confidence in us all is amazing ๐Ÿ™‚

  360. Tatyana

    February 16th, 2015 at 11:10 pm

    I love how vulnerable you are with your posts – thank you so much for sharing and letting us learn from your experience!

  361. Jon Tinkler

    March 3rd, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    I know I’m late to the party on this one, but thanks heaps Jasmine for the post – this business is great, but it can really shake your confidence when things aren’t going right. Always a little comforting to know that even you have had those moments you talked about above, rings so many bells. Thanks again and you really are a superstar ๐Ÿ™‚

  362. Adriean

    March 31st, 2015 at 4:00 am

    Wow. #1 really hit home for me. I need to print this and tape it somewhere. This is SO where I am at right now. I dream about what I want, and I think about it day in and day out, but I am so incredibly TERRIFIED of failure! Like heart palpitations terrified. But, I guess they do say that if your dreams dont scare you, then they aren’t big enough! Thanks Jasmine this was inspirational ๐Ÿ™‚