Have you ever found yourself comparing your journey or your results to someone else’s? Have asked yourself questions like: Why hasn’t it happened yet? What am I doing wrong? Why does it feel so hard?
If so: you’re not alone. It’s common to use other people’s timelines or results as a measure of what we should do or should have in a certain amount of time.
But here’s what I’ve learned about this: I have NO idea how someone got their results. None. And so to compare myself and what I have (or don’t have) is simply a waste of time, energy and focus.
Instead of asking “why not me?” I’ve learned to ask different questions – questions like “who must I become to get what I want? What must I learn to get what I want? How must I be patient to get what I want?
If you want to know my exact process for getting out of the comparison trap and staying focused on what matters, click >>PLAY<< now to hear me share:
- [00:20] The common questions that we ask when we’re comparing ourselves
- [02:02] The reality of what we see v. what we don’t see
- [03:42] The questions that can help us refocus and get results
- [07:47] The importance of celebrating others
- [08:29] “What is this all for?” – the question I asked myself a few weeks ago in yoga class and how I answered it
- [10:36] How to enjoy the process, even when it’s hard
- [15:16] A summary of the three-step framework I use to move out of comparison quickly
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